No Registry Bridal Shower

I wouldn't have offered to host a shower if they weren't registered.

The point of a shower is to shower the bride with gifts. If they don't want gifts, there's really no need for a shower. Maybe have a recipe shower where guests bring their favorite recipe(s) to share with the bride as their gift.

Under no circumstances should you ask guests to bring cash or giftcards (and neither should they.) It's incredibly rude.

Yes I understand. Without going into too much detail. This process has been frustrating, the bride is very nice but has changed her mind twice now on the type of shower she wants. Now for my wedding I was so laid back about it. This is my third theme I have planned. I don't feel like she has her thoughts together on things. She mentioned kitchen shower yet she says she doesn't want that stuff, so I'm not doing that. Its a new idea every few weeks or so. I already have this new themed pick and a baby coming soon. I told her not to worry about it I have it covered. I'm just trying to make the best of it. I'm happy to throw it just done with constant changes. And idk what to do about the gift portion.

I like the idea of the recipe card

No is a complete sentence. She sounds like way too much work. Walk away. You really don't want to be known as a host of a cash shower.

The point of a shower is to shower the bride with gifts. And while cash is a gift, I've always brought a physical gift to a shower off the registry to a shower. Your friend really should add items to her registry or a shower doesn't make sense

Skip the shower. Asking for cash or honey fund is tacky. Im not registered and had a guest ask me what i wanted. I said that I wanted nothing but for them to come and have a good time celebrating with us.

She shouldn't even be involved in planning the shower. Also, they should remove that "cute little saying" from their website. It is extremely tacky and rude to ask for money. If someone wants to give money they will they don't need to be prompted.

I love the recipe card idea!

I first asked if she wanted ladies only shower or his and hers. She said his and hers bc of the no registry. I had it planned out it was going to be more of a celebration. All of our families, their friends. Then she said changed her mind bc of the no gifts saying it doesn't make to,have one. Tried to tell her it was more of a celebration but she insisted on a girlfriends only shower. I came up with fun theme she loved then someone hosting Bach party took the idea and I was asked to come up with something new. Now it's a ladies shower not just a friends. And she mentioned having a kitchen tea. I said I got it planned no worries. I think at this point maybe i wont even a dress the subject of gifts and it will jus be a party.

What if you host a small parry and don't call it a shower? Do a bbq or lunch somewhere? On the invitations just call it something other than a shower. Don't mention anything about gifts with the invitations. If people ask, tell them gifts are not necessary, the bride would just like to have some time with everyone before the wedding. I like the idea of doing the recipie cards too. Maybe keep that as the theme and send a recipe card with the invitations and ask people to bring their favorite recipe for the bride and groom?

When I hear "love is sweet," my thought is to bring a gift of chocolates or specifically bring kitchen gadgets that will help the couple make dessert (like a candy mold). Actually, that would probably be an appropriate way to go.

But under no circumstances would I say, "gifts like what is mentioned on the couple's website," when the couple has only asked for cash on their website, because it's rude to ask for money.

It seems like a more straightforward way to put the theme you have would be to call it a date night shower. That would probably inspire guests to bring fancy chocolates, a bottle of wine or champagne, massage oils, lingerie, tickets to a show, museum, the zoo, or possibly gift cards to restaurants and the movies. I would not suggest gift cards, though, if anyone did ask you for gift ideas because that would be asking for money.

A recipe shower is also a good idea for someone who isn't registered.

Have you tried suggesting that she just register for the few things she'd like for the shower? I get that she currently doesn't want a kitchen shower. Does she and FH have a shared hobby, like camping or board games? REI does registries and it would be really easy to set up a board game registry at most stores or Amazon of games they'd really like to add to their collection and then that hobby could be the shower theme.

A shower without having to watch the bride open gifts sounds amazing! That's usually when I leave. So boring!! HaHa!

I think a date night shower would be really fun. I'm thinking a gift basket with a bottle of wine, pasta, and sauce and maybe a box of chocolates. It's not asking for cash but most would probably give gift cards to a nice restaurant or movie theater.

No registry, no shower.

You can host a Bridal lunch or picnic or something, but no shower.

Change the theme of the shower. I also thought of a date-night theme as others suggested. I could see some guests bringing gift cards; more creative guests will bring baskets like @Erin suggested. That could be cute!

OMG don't have a cash/gift card shower. That's about as rude as a honeyfund. I would host a bridal tea or some such as opposed to an actual shower. For me, the thing with gift baskets is that I rarely use all of it. I have an unopened one on my kitchen table. I should probably give it to charity.

Plus with baskets you don't have to watch anyone open them. A lot more fun for guests. I will never understand woman who think watching someone open a new vacuum cleaner or plates is exciting. Lol!

Skip it. Seriously; a cash/gift card shower is ridiculous.

Have a 'bridal tea'' if she still wants a shower, but asking people to bring money is tacky.

Definitely rude.

Either just a bridal lunch/dinner or if it must be a shower I agree with the everyone brings a recipe to share or another idea along those lines.