"no plus one" wording on website

Yes, I think it’s tacky to put this on the website. You should never explicitly state who is not invited. Address your invitations very specifically and guests will understand.
Know that if you have friends or family that are in relationships and their SO doesn’t get invited, they might be very offended.

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All of this.

I think people will know as to who the invite is addressed to .. but of they ask then yell them

Put __ seats reserved in your honour on your RSVP card instead. Don't state who is not invited.

But yes, I agree with PPs that it's rude to judge the seriousness of someone else's relationship. You're asking people to celebrate yours and invalidating theirs.

I don't think it's tacky but maybe in your invite you can specify that it's solely for them... To avoid confusion. That way you don't have to alter your webpage just to specify that. I think most people would understand considering the costs and the number of family and friends that you want to invite but may not be able to invite for to that reason. I am doing the same thing basically. Only my elder guests and family that are married as well as out of state guests get a plus one and that's limited to their partners. Everyone else will not unfortunately. There's simply no way to invite everyone you want if you're providing all guests the opportunity to bring who they want. Also, when you do your call backs to confirm that these guests are or aren't coming you can inform them personally that due to space and guest limitations they can it can't bring an additional guest. Good luck.

😑 This is so rude and tacky. Just address the invitations to those you intend to invite. Also know that the guests you didn’t allow to bring their SOs may be a bit miffed when you invited other partners. A SO of a guest is not a plus one; they are a social unit and are supposed to be invited together, no matter how long they have been together. Maybe invite all couples or don’t invite those you plan on splitting up. It’s just plain disrespectful to their relationship.

Although you will read otherwise almost everyday on this site, there is no breach of etiquette in not giving a plus one to someone who is truly single. It is perfectly ok to limit couples to those who are engaged, married or living together. I would add "in long term relationships" to that list.

I do suggest you leave yourself some wiggle room on the guest list, because someone who has only been dating 2 months now, could have a 10 month dating history or be living together by the time your wedding rolls around.

It is however, a definite breach of etiquette to point out to people those who are not invited- on the invitation, on the website or anywhere else.

It is definitely tacky. Just don’t put “And guest” on the invites. If someone tries to rsvp with a plus one, just tell them themselves on a case by case basis

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I agree. I addressed my invitations as so. Mostly for my young guests that still live with their parents or who aren't married. Mostly because I don't know their SOs.

I would second the “we have reserved __ seats in your honor” idea because I didn’t do that.. so now people are adding on guests that I didn’t have on the invitation and sending back rsvps stating 2 are coming instead the one person I invited. It’s happened twice now. Please learn from my mistakes!! Lol

Please do not include any wording on the website as to who is invited or not invited. As for your plus ones invite as you please. I find it funny how everyone thinks it rude to not allow someone who is dating for only 2 months not to bring them. When you address the invites address them specifically to whom you are inviting. The people you are inviting you know, you know where they are in their relationship...you already stated that you were inviting couples to the ones you know are couples just not extending that to people who are not involved in a serious relationship. I see no issue in that...others will.

We put on the RSVP “# of seats have been reserved in your honor”

On our online RSVP we were able to set the number of people that could attend when they rsvp, or on the cards (for those older family members who don't use the internet) we wrote "we have reserved __ seats in your honor".
I would skip saying it elsewhere on the website.

I had never thought to put the "we have reserved __ seats in your honor" before I started looking at WW forums. I definitely think this is the way to go, and plan to use it myself!

Question! I like the “we have reserved __ number of seats” idea but what if we plan to use the wedding wire rsvp on our website? Can i still do that or will i have to resort to paper rsvp?

View Quoted Comment I am using the knot website but it allows me to list “John smith’s Plus one” (since they’re not dating anyone) when they go to rsvp online so it’s a party of 2. I’ve had a few guests rsvp online and they say “accepting” for themselves but “decline” for the plus one!

I do not think it is tacky at all. There are individuals who are unfamiliar with weddings and automatically assume that they are entitled to bring a date. Some people need to be notified in advance before they begin making preparations for themselves as well as their "date". I had the same issue with my wedding. If you are comfortable with letting your guests know that you can not accommodate plus ones, then go for it!

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Do you mind telling me what website you used to be able to do this with your online RSVP's? I am looking for a website that allows us to do the same thing!

View Quoted Comment Minted. We paid for the premium website but it was the one time only fee and I think the website lasted over a year or about a year before you have to renew it.

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I don't find it rude or tacky at all, although I'm aware that my opinions about couples may differ from the norm. Financial limitations are a big consideration. It's worth noting what others have said—some individuals you invite may choose not to come if they don't get a plus one, so it's important to be prepared for that possibility. However, if you're already inviting couples who are living together, engaged, and/or married, it's likely these are the couples with whom you've established good friendships with as couples already. Not sure if that makes sense..but basically you those couples are already solid couples you know and are cool with.