No plus 1 for rehearsal dinner?

I think its perfectly fine not to invite SO of bridal party. They will understand!!

I think SO should be invited to the rehearsal dinner just like they are invited to the wedding.

I think you should invite SO

I won't jump down your throat but I do think SO's should be invited.

It sounds good in reality cuz we'd like to not invite the SO's too, but imagine if you or your husband was in a wedding and you werent able to attend the rehearsal with him? thats how i look at it. i'd kinda be annoyed if i wasnt invited to something even though we've been together for so long and everyone knows that. ya know? if they dont have a serious gf/bf/husband/wife, then i wouldnt give them the opportunity to just invite a random person to be with them, but i'd definitely invite the significant other if theyre serious. my personal opinion!

I really think you should invite SO. In fact, I have never been to a rehearsal dinner where myself and FH were not invited as a couple.

I know this probably isn't the answer you looking for but I think it's rude to leave out the SOs. Especially if any of them ate traveling from out of town. Either way i would scale back on other things. Keep it super causal and don't serve booze. That should significantly cut back the cost. Good luck!

If they're married, yes you kinda have to extend that invite.

most my my bridesmaids were out of town so their husbands were around anyways and that would have been super awkward. the boys are all single so they didn't have plus ones

Thanks for the feedback. One BMs and one GM are either married or in a long-term relationship, so I would definitely invite them. I guess I am unsure about two of the GM's and one of my BMs who are in on-and-off relationships with their girlfriend/boyfriend.

If they're married or coming with them from out of town I think they should be invited. Besides that I think it would be fine.

My FMIl is paying for ours. I am not inviting significant others. Maybe it's bad etiquette but we are at 25 ppl for the dinner and I want to help keep price down. Plus if you invite SOs wouldn't the children have to come? That would just get too pricey. Granted Most SO's are already in my wedding party, but a few aren't. Just my two cents

You need to invite all SO.

I'm not giving plus 1's for the RD. Mainly bc it's FHs bday party, and his friends come first to me. Plus, if my moh can come cross country without her husband, then my local maids can hang out for a couple hours without them.

However, one reason this works in my planning, is we are heading straight from the RD/bday party, to the Bach parties. And fh doesn't want random flavor of the weeks with them. And I agree. Thankfully, all his friends have been with their SO's at least a year, minus 1 Gm. But his plus 1, he has known since HS and they are now SO's :-)

I definitely think they should be included.

I think you should invite significant others of the wedding party. No need for random plus 1s, but it would be inconsiderate to exclude spouses / significant others. My feelings would be hurt if FH was invited to a rehearsal dinner for a friend who he was close enough to to be in the wedding party and I wasn't.

I feel like this might be one of those things where the bridal party will not care whatsoever or will be insannely offended, with no in between. At least that has been my experience. For reasons other than finances, I was toying around with not inviting so's and had my matron of honor say she would absolutely not attend if her husband wasn't invited and had my maid of honor say "awesome! perfect start to our girls night". I personally wouldn't be offended or care and neither would FH if he weren't included however, but I am much more like my maid of honor and very much unlike my matron when it comes to independence / friends etc.

Before I knew my FILs were going to pay, we were on a tight budget. I just found a place we could afford with inviting SOs. I didn't really think it was an option not to. We only had 2 out of 10 that are married or in a long term relationship and they are traveling far. Maybe if the SOs are local it might not be such a big deal.

Yes, what Erin said

If my groom was attending a rehearsal dinner and I wasn't included I wouldn't be upset.

maybe you should speak to your FIL and bridal party about it.

see if he's ok with the cost and see if the bridal party would be that upset if they came alone.

I think that's the best way to decide.

Thanks for everyone's input I think we will invite husband/wife or serious bf/gf of the bridal party members.