No photos on social media?

I feel like if you are going to do that, you might as well do an unplugged. I would put signs up all around your venue saying so. Why wouldn't you want people posting them??

Are you on social media?

@Courtney because there are members of my family who don't know I'm getting married and I'd like to keep it that way. I don't want to say unplugged because that usually means to turn off your phone. I don't care if people leave their phones on, talk on their phones, text, or take photos for themselves. They can even post photos OF themselves. I just don't want my name/photos on social media or tagged in FB posts.

I am in the same boat. I'm not on Facebook or Instagram and don't want our pics posted by others...especially since we're having a small intimate wedding

Your Facebook settings will allow you to approve any photo tags before they appear on your feed. If someone does tag a picture off you, it won't show without your approval.

Are you inviting any friends or family members who are interact with those you don't want to know about your marriage? If so, speak directly to them because changing your settings so that you have to approve something on your timeline doesn't mean those other family members won't see things on friends/family social media.

@Jeleebeenz that's what I worry about. There are several who are a friend of a friend who's in touch with at least one of those family members. I'd just prefer not to be named/tagged on social media and I think everyone will respect that once they know, but my question was on how to announce it. I guess word of mouth is the way to go?

I guess you could put it on your website, and then also on the program and/or if you are already having a sign outside of the ceremony spot.

It's super non-intuitive (many people love being celebrated on social media and suggest a hashtag to use), so I think it's better to be explicit than have it be word-of-mouth, which might not reach 100% of the people (though, if there are only particular people that you are worried about, you could reach out to them individually).

So its not what you are looking for but there is a way to set up your Facebook so that you have to approve anything you are tagged in. Then it won't show up on your page until you approve it...assuming you do

@Holly I know the hashtag thing is big. We also don't plan to have a website. That's why our STDs were super important. We're sending them out this month and they'll have an insert included with all the information regarding airports/transportation, hotel blocks, the city/state of the venue, etc.

I think word of mouth is best. My girl friend has a well-known father so she let it spread via word of mouth not to post any pics of him from her wedding on social media. Only one asshole didn't listen.

Are you Beyonce? Or in the witness protection program? Honestly, in the world we live in today, this will be impossible unless you actually TAKE your guests' phones, which would be extremely rude. You can ask, but I don't think many people will listen. They will find the request odd.

Why even have them as FB friends if you don't want them to know you're getting married?

You can ask, but be prepared for people to do it anyway. There's always those few who have to post pics of where they are all the time.

It is rude - you can't tell adults what they can and can't do (that's why "unplugged" weddings are rude too). Those people could post nothing on social media and text pics to your other family members. Marriage is public record, if they want to know, they'll find out.

That said, definitely do the approving tag feature.

@annakay511 I doubt the majority of guests would find it odd as most know and understand the situation. I just want to remind them not to post the photos/names. And I disagree in my situation. I don't think it's impossible due to the circumstances.

@Stephanie, while I do think it's rude to tell guests they must turn off their phones during a wedding/reception, I also think it's rude to post people's photos on social media without their permission.

I mean, that may be true, but you don't pre-empt rudeness with rudeness. I mean, even if you tell people, someone will still post, It's inevitable.

Does knowledge of your marriage put you or your fiance in danger? If the guests know/understand the situation, they should already know not to post pictures.

Hi Elizabeth. What you're wanting to have happen is not at all uncommon. I would have it in print in the program and have an announcement made before the Grandparents/Parents come down the aisle.

"Thank you for celebrating our day with us today. We respectfully ask that you do not post any wedding images taken today to social media. Thank you for allowing us this privacy!"

All you can do is ask.

I don't know how, but I knot it is possible to disable the ability for people to tag you in stuff. I would google that. If you are having a smaller intimate wedding I would just individually explain to your guests that you don't want any photos, or your name online. It may just be easier for you to request an unplugged wedding.

@Thank you Kathleen. I think that wording is perfect and I'm so glad to hear it's not uncommon. Some of the other posters had me worried, like I was the only one who ever requested such a thing or something.

Keep in mind guys, while your union may be celebrated by the masses, not everyone is so fortunate. For some of us, marrying the person we love has meant being threatened and disowned. My FH and I have been together over a decade and for the first five years, our lives were a living hell due to bigotry.