No Parents for the Groom

Which areas are you concerned about? ...just skip them. It's not like a big focus will be on the parents of the groom.

Both of my parents have passed, (father in January and Mother when I was 11) I had my brothers walk me down the aisle. The rest of the parent stuff we skipped. His parents chose not walk down the aisle in the ceremony and my Aunt declined due to her difficult time with walking. She did not want people staring at her. We skipped the parent dances.

I guess I'm more thinking along the lines of the responsibilities of the groom's parents. I guess I'm a little lost on who pays for what, what are the roles of the parents, aside from the bride's father walking the bride down the isle.

Ok so as far as money goes, you are adults and should plan the wedding that you can afford. While there are traditions when it comes to bride and grooms parents paying for different things it is 2015 so no one should be expected to pay for anything. If your parents offer to pay for parts of the weddings then that is nice, but there should never be an expectation on any parents. Traditionally the groom's parents host the rehearsal dinner, but many couple's host it themselves nowadays anyway. There are ways to honor parents such as providing corsages for the moms and grandmas and boutonniere's for dads and grandfathers. You can simply skip his parents with those since they are not a part of his life. There are no real roles for parents. If you are choosing to have your father walk you down the aisle then I guess that counts as a role, as well as a father/daughter dance. You can just google "roles for parents in weddings" and read through the results if you, your FH and your parents want to go the traditional route. good luck.

Yea I'm not really expecting anyone else to pay, was just more along the lines of who typically hosted this or that. But I agree it's 2015 and well you don't have to be 100% traditional anymore.

We payed for everything with a little help from Dad before he died. His parents paid for zilch. I am fine with that, don't want them to hold over my head for the next 10 years.

I would check with your FH before you plan anything, just cause I know the last thing my husband would want would be to bring up that kind of emotional stuff-- he likes to pretend he just doesn't have emotions. Of course, this may not be a problem-- you certainly know your FH!

FH mom passed away in 2011 and he isnt close to his dad. In my circle the FH parents typically pick up the cost of flowers and the rehearsal dinner. Since my parents are paying for everything else FH and myself are paying for the flowers and RD. Im not a big fan of father/daughter dances so we are skipping it since he wont have anyone to dance with.

If you wanted to look at tradition, the bride's parents pay for everything except the rehearsal dinner. That was left up to the groom's parents.

BUT that isn't really how it is anymore. You shouldn't even be wondering or asking about this. You and your FH can pay for it yourselves unless someone offers. No asking.

Thanks for the input everyone , I feel no question is a bad question, especially when someone is clueless about all of this. But I'm sure we'll figure it all out when the time comes.

Since traditionally the bride's family paid for the wedding entirely, luckily the groom's parents' role at the wedding is very minimal/non-existent. The mothers are typically sat as part of the procession but that's about it in the ceremony. Only recently has the mother-son dance become popular. So, just skip the dance (most people, especially older folks, won't even realize you skipped it). Traditionally, the groom's parents/family pays for the rehearsal dinner, so you and your FH may need to just cover the cost of that yourselves.

PS. change your avatar so people will recognize you

I ask the same question as far as the wording on the invitation. do you label the aunt as a "representative" of the groom instead of mother of the groom? the mother is not invited as she is not sober and to invite her would be risking the day