No one will dance in my wedding

You'd be surprised how a drink or two can get uptight people on the dance floor. My daughter's wedding was full of engineers, including the two dads, a grandfather, a couple cousins, friends, and my sil. The dance floor was packed. My favorite picture of the night is of my sil dancing with my mother

Maybe consider a brunch wedding? Or a reception at a restaurant where there is no expectation of dancing really?

I feel the same way
I have alot of older people
We are skipping a dj because this theres not a huge amount of space for dancing
Part of me wants dancing but just dont think that my guests will
My fh never wants to dance
We are having first dance and father daughter/mother son
If others dance they do i dont expect it

Is your wedding in a few days? If so, nothing you can do now. But if you have time, cancel the dj, and bring in some nice jazz music or maybe a harp. Set the tone that its a lively dinner party and then you won't be disappointed that its not a dance party.

Nothing wrong with a no-dancing, no-drinking crowd. Looks like your wedding is next month. What kind of venue? Brunch or dinner? What's the flow of your event?

If not too late to change, a food action station will help get people up and doing things: a meat carving station, dessert table, or fancy coffee bar.

We can make other suggestions but we don't know what you have already booked/planned. Or if you're just looking for support, not to worry--your friends & family are there to celebrate your wedding. Just be sure you and your fiance make the table rounds because you're the stars of the show and people will want to chat with you.

HI Ashley,

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I like the idea of a brunch or lunch wedding. But there are also some really cool services that rent specialty equipment and provide fun activities for your guests. Also, just because there will be no dancing, doesn't mean you can't hire a nice pianist, or musical act to provide ambiance for your special day.

Check out our vendor search in your area for fun ideas like a photo booth, cigar roller, or my fave, the smores station w/ firepit!

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We didn’t have a lot of dancers either. I was fine with it, but come wedding time, I did wish there were other forms of entertainment to keep people engaged. Can you add a photo booth, food stations, a cool interactive dessert, etc. to give guests more to “do” aside from chat, eat and mingle?

Try having entertainment on the dance floor dancers to match the theme. Example a belly dancer or hula dancers that will encourage individual to dance through audience interaction.

Could you have some other forms of activities? Like yard games, a photo booth, or a video booth? Or disposable cameras on the tables, or advice cards for guests to fill out? You could also play games with the bride & groom, like the shoe game that is pretty common. I wouldn't worry too much, people tend to mingle!

Maybe just go for more of a "dinner party vibe" which can be fun in a sophisticated way- not sure if you booked your venue yet but you could even opt for not having a dance floor at all to avoid the "empty floor" issue. Some other ideas would be: provide some kind of heavier entertainment (than just recorded music) like a live band, strolling violinist, a comedian, or even dancers or acrobats to perform (no idea what the pricing on that would be but I've seen it done)! Or make it into a "game party" and set up poker, blackjack, board games, ping-pong or outside games like cornhole and ladder golf if it's outdoors. Another good way to entertain guests is to play games with you as the center, like the shoe game.

If you do want to dance, voice this concern to your bridal party - they are the ones who are usually driving the dancing, at least in my experience. Have your bridesmaids give a list of their favorite songs to dance to, and ask them to help you get the dance floor going early on. Maybe even learn a coordinated dance together so you can kick things off. Good luck!

Me and my "work" familyMy hubby gettin' down with our friend DebraMy husband's 24 year old niece and 70 year old cousinOur 70+ year old cousins. They were on floor all night!My sister sharing a dance with her granddaughter (my grand niece).Our cousins.

I've seen quite a few posts on here with a similar concern about an "older" crowd and being that I am over 50, 57 to be exact, I need to speak on behalf of us old fogies. I got married for the first time last August. My husband, who was 61 when us old farts tied the knot. We had the same number of people at our wedding. You could not get us off the dance floor! Us old folks have been dancing and partying since the early 70s. Discos, rock clubs, punk clubs. I have partied at almost every legendary NYC club: Max's Kansas City, Studio 54, Limelight, CBGB, The Ritz, Pyramid Club, Mudd Club, Danceteria, Peppermint Lounge, you name it! Back in college, where my husband and I met in 1979, The Ramones, The Pretenders, and the NY Dolls played on our college campus in Brooklyn when they were new bands. And yes, all the people at our wedding in their 40s, 50s, 60s and 70s were killing it on the dance floor - to everything from Stevie Wonder to JayZ, Michael Jackson to Beastie Boys, Al Green to CeeLo Green.

Now, I'm sure you know your crowd. Not everyone over 50 likes to dance. Same goes for everyone under 30. You can help set the vibe by getting on the dance floor yourselves, even if it takes a little liquid courage. Also, a good DJ knows how to get people on dance floor. Find out what music your guests like, that should help. You might want to think about incorporating some fun props.

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I LOVE THIS!!

I agree, dancing may break out regardless! My family aren't much of dancers and the FH's family are Southern Baptist so they *really* don't dance much. We'll be outside and have yard games, but I also want to encourage conversation and am going to leave things like decks of cards and Trivial Pursuit cards on cocktail tables and in conversation areas. But who knows!? We'll see how it goes!

We are doing lawn games! Giant genga is out guest "book" corn hole, a DIY photo booth, and theres a fire pit so we will probably do smores

Maybe add a caricature artist. It can be a fun favor as well