No one was excited after i got engaged:-(

I experienced something similar. When I called my mom to tell her, she said "if that's what you want, we'll support you." At that point, my family had only met my FH once. They were much more supportive after meeting him again. Our wedding is 50ish days away now, and she's finally getting excited 😁.

I have also had a similar thing happen when I told my family that I had gotten engaged no was happy for me at all I even had some family that said that they wasn't coming to the wedding and they didn't support my decision to do so but now it seems s if everyone is with me getting married and finally see that Im happy and this is what I want to do.

Hi Nicole,
Cobgratulations on your engagement! Its normal to feel a little down when people aren't as exited as you about your wedding. You mention that you don't use social media regularly. Im the same way. I rarely post things and when I do only a handful of peooke "like" my posts or comment. The thing about social media is that, like everything else, it takes effort and time to build a large following- even when it includes family. You shouldn't feel bad that people aren't showing exitement as long as you are exited and happy. How are people reacting to the news in real life? Have you had an engagement announcement or STD. For me, people didn't actually say anything wedding related until we had sent our STDs.

Anyhow, I hope the exitement builds up as your date gets closer. Happy planning!

I had a similar issue. My parents and siblings were excited, but most of my cousins were just kind of "meh" about it. One of my cousins, who I thought I was pretty close to, even criticized my ring, saying, "I would be SO MAD if my ring had diamonds that SMALL on it!" I was very offended since I love my ring, which is a simple rose gold band with a few small diamonds embedded in it, but because I work in an automotive factory and I really don't like flashy, big, "HERE I AM!!!" types of rings, it works perfectly. It still sucks, but I gave up on trying to please people like that (especially family members who just can't be happy for you) a long time ago.

I don't see engagements as a huge deal so it wouldn't phase me. I'd probably text you congratulations and then not mention it again.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for responding. Did you invite that cousin to your wedding?

As long as you are happy that is all that matters.!!! You will find in wedding planning nobody will be more happy and excited for you than you and your other half. Except for the vendors and they are getting paid.

I understand how you feel.
I told my mom I was engaged and she kicked me out of her house, so I understand.
Im excited for you though! Congratulations 🎊🍾🎉

I’m in the same boat as you. I’ve been with my FH for 5 years now and my parents love him. BUT no one has asked me about the engagement or the wedding. The wedding is 9 months away and no one wants to help or even talk about it. Since we are doing a micro wedding and I’m a semi private person, I’m brushing it off. I think they think I don’t want to discuss any of it but that’s not entirely true lol. I say don’t worry about it too much as long as it’s what you want who cares about the rest

I wouldn't worry about it too much. I have a friend who happens to be a Narcissist and when I got engaged she became very envious, jealous and spiteful. She even started wearing random rings on her ring finger even though she is not engaged in hopes of gaining attention. She has been waving her hand around in my face hopig that I will acknowledge the ring and comment on it but I wont and just ignore it.

First off, Congrats!!! An engagement is such an exciting time and you deserve to feel excited about this time! Unfortunately people will have their own reactions, they could jealous, they could not approve of the relationship, there could be a number of reasons but if you feel it is right that is what matters!

The only people that matter about being excited are you and your FS. Don't let others get you down because they aren't meeting your expectations for how excited they should be. That will just lead to more disappointment down the road while you are planning the wedding. No one really asks me how planning is going or to see my ring or any of that and I really don't care because it's not their wedding.

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View Quoted Comment We haven't sent out invitations yet, but I guarantee she won't be getting one. We discussed it a while back and just decided if she wanted to be a b---- about it, she doesn't need to be there.

I see this post is years old but ladies I'm going through this and what I thought I wanted to be a big wedding is starting to change my mind because of the lack of excitement or engagement I've received from many what I though of "close" friends and family. When my friends got married or engaged I was super excited and gave them my effect of help or just interest. When my turn came around its crickets.. 😔

I also went though this! We got engaged on a family trip to Disney (yes, yes I know but it was perfect to me). Fiancé didn't tell anyone his plan and we got engaged in front of the Epcot ball. Well, when we got back to the hotel room and told his mom and sister we were met with "oh ok". Then came the criticism from his mom. Why did it we it in front of Epcot? It should have been the castle. Why didn't he say anything? Someone could have been there and taken a video. There should have been a video of the proposal. His father is going to be so upset he didn't know and demand to know from his mom why he didn't know a head of time. My fiancé looks so sweaty in the pictures. Why does he look so sweaty. She later apologized, but the damage was done.

View Quoted Comment I feel that, Cecilia. I bought coordinating outfits and dragged my four kids across the country to my brother and SIL's wedding, but now that it's my turn, it's too hard for them to bring to bring their two kids. 🫤 Similar story with my sister.