No One Attending Shower ;(

Your suggestion was the best idea. She should reconsider seeing as how 12 people said no.

Perhaps the restaurant is too expensive for her to host at? It would cost A LOT more than hosting at home. Ask if she'd host at your home, I think that's a fair compromise and not costing her extra

She and her husband just bought a new house last year, and I think she want to show it off. My mom offered to have the shower at her place which is a lot closer to where everyone lives, but my maid of honor was insistent.

That is a hard call, due to her having the say when it is for you!! While I understand she would like to have it at her place, seems like it is just too out of the way. This is causing you to miss out and that isn’t fair! I hope she has a change of heart. You appreciate her offer, but ideally with everyone living closer to you, it makes sense to have it closer, or make it into a fun weekend with a sleepover or something. Hard to justify driving that long!

To demonstrate appreciation to the MOH for what she tried to do, I'd attend the shower she planned/hosts, but if your mom is still willing to host a local shower, I'd give her the go-ahead to get that going. (I planned daughter's in less than 6 weeks, so there is still time!) I'm sorry for you; this has to be very stressful. I know WW posts are full of "if they love you, they'll come" claims, but, honestly, that's just not always possible and I think it's hurtful to brides when people cannot make events because it suggests guests "don't actually love you." I'm sure they do love you, but driving 140 miles in a day is a lot to ask; and their declining has NOTHING to do with how they feel about you. But, if it is an option to still plan an event that is convenient for the guests, I'd go that route. Good luck!

View Quoted Comment I tried so hard to convince her to have it closer to where most of the invitees live, but she kept insisting on her place. My mom even offered to have the shower at her (my old) house, but nothing worked.

I know I shouldn’t so dramatic, I still feel like it is a light to me because no one can come.

I'm really sorry. That is quite a distance to travel for guests. If it were me I would reschedule if possible, closer to everyone.

View Quoted Comment I wonder how feasible it would be to reschedule. I guess she could call all of the guests and tell them the new location, but I also wonder how many will already have made other plans.

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Yeah, this is why I like MOB So Cal's idea. Ask your mom to host a second shower, closer to where the guests live, for a completely different date. You still have time before your wedding, and probably get a lot more people to come. It's worth a shot.

I agree with having your mom host a second shower.