No moh or bm

From what I see here a lot of people have bridesmaids and moh problems. Others seem to have a good time. I have a wedding party but no one is designated a bridesmaid or moh. They are all just wedding party. Most live pretty far a way so they are involved as much as they can and want to be. For me it's fun because I don't want a lot of input I want to make decisions on my own and they are really there for me to say thanks for being in my life and with your help and God's getting me to a place where I can get married. I think it would also depend on why you want bridesmaids or a moh. I am not planning to have a bachelorette party and my FHs sister and is doing a shower which both my FH and I will attend. I am sorry if you feel as though you are missing out and wish I could bring the hype for you 😀. There is not right or wrong answer to your question. It really just depends on the person and the type of people they pick to be in the wedding party.

I would also add that you and your FH should just go do fun things together if you don't have friends or if you want closer friends look at your friend group and pick some people to start building a closer relationship with you don't have to and probably shouldn't ask them to be in your wedding party but you can start building closer relationships (if you want) I used to be so non social but after a while I just started cultivating real friendships.

I'm not having a bridal party, but he has a best man. Instead our kids will stand on my side. As far as getting ready I'm inviting my sister and friend to come hang out. We're also going to brunch together (FI and I) the morning of before going our separate ways for getting ready.

My FH's step sister didnt have anyone stand up with them. She didnt seem to have a problem with it. Their other brother did officiant for them though.

We only have a BM and MOH and it's going to make things so much easier. I don't want a bachelorette party, but I think my MOH wants to plan a little something like dinner or painting with a twist. No bridal shower, etc.

I don't personally think it matters unless you really wanted it.

I didn’t have any! No regrets. My mom & sister got ready with me, we enjoyed bites & bubbly. It was perfect. How sweet if you got ready with your mom & FMIL.

View Quoted Comment Yeah and thats the problem.. I really did want a bachelorette party and a bridal shower so without a bridal party it's kind of weird to throw yourself one, right?

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With or without a bridal party, you don't throw yourself a shower or bachelorette. (Inviting people over to give you gifts would be incredibly tacky.) And having a bridal party is no guarantee that you get one. Conversely, if anyone (even someone outside of the bridal party) offers to throw you one, you can graciously accept.

We had my two children as our attendants. They both lived out of town, and didn't throw any parties for us. However, one friend offered to throw a shower (which I declined) and two others threw bachelorette parties.

So don't base your decision on whether to have a bridal party on wanting a shower and/or a bachelorette. If those things happen, great, but otherwise you can definitely get married without them.

As for getting ready, you can do it however you like--by yourself, with family members, with friends, etc.

I didn't for my first wedding. And didn't miss it. It was my choice to get ready on my own, without friends there, both when I did not have a wedding party, and when I did. Until this fad from reality TV of brides having a team, like a celebrity Entourage, most weddings a bride got ready with at most one or two family or friends, total. Not a group. Lots of people still do. If you want a friend with you, ask one. There is nothing that says you have to be wedding party, to be a friend who helps a bride get ready. Since BM are chosen from closest friends or family, it may be a BM or MOH. Or just any friend or family you ask to be with you. Same with showers, and bachelorette parties. Even when I did have a bridal party, I knew when I chose them that they would be far away during my entire engagement. But any friend, ir fammily, can do showers. So even though I had a bridal party, they had nothing to do with the 3 small showers other friends in different locations gave for me. Other friends volunteers. And my bridal party attended, not gave, a shower, as they all lived in different states within about 1 hour if MOG in NYC, so they went as guests. The only time I saw any if them between the time I was engafed., And 2 days before the wedding 5 months later. . . . If you have few friends, then maybe some one other than your family will not give you a shower. But then, what other friends would they invite if you do not have many? Maybe what you are seeing is that at this point in your life, it would be a good time to make overtures to other, invite people out individually or in couples with FI. Not so you have wedding things, but so you start having the good things of friendship. I know with moving far from home for college, uprooting when I joined the army medical Corp and left New England for the deep South, then Pacific Northwest, when I returned and went to grad school in Boston and met FI, I had scattered friends all around the country, and not where I was at the time. And grad school plus working 30-40 hours of nursing shifts a week, I met all kinds of nice people at work and school, but when was I supposed to see anybody with such a schedule? It took graduating and moving north so I was half way between hometown and where I went to school, to give me time to resurrect ild friendships, and make new ones. But I really put the time and effort into it, because as someone from a big family, with all their friends coming and going, and schools and the army, people everywhere, suddenly I lived and worked in a small rural town, and I got lonely. This is a wake-up call for you, perhaps. Ask a friend to be with you for any wedding thing you want, including getting ready day if. And meanwhile, for yourself, put time into making new friends. Be happy. It is not dependent on having a wedding party, that does not matter. Just you putting some effort into friendship as something you value.

View Quoted Comment Not necessarily. Two friends of mine took me & my mom to an adorable bridal brunch.

I'm having my two daughters from my first marriage be my bridal party. My 22- year- old will be my MOH, and my 14-year-old will be a Jr BM. I'll have them with me for trying on dresses, a bridal lunch (rather than a formal shower), and we'll have fun picking their dresses. Best of all, no drama!

Your attendants don't have to be friends, they can be family. Or your fiance's family. It will make your day even more special.

I didn't have any and our big day was amazing. DH helped me do up my dress and I helped him with his tie. After reading a lot of the challenges that having BM/MOH can bring, I know I made the right decision for me.

Think hard about what you want. Having your FMIL involved is nice. You can ask a friend or family member to help the day of too. There is no right or wrong on this.

Our only wedding party was our dog (walked in by a friend) and our flower girl (wearing a Hawaiian sundress and carrying a votive). We didn't want to choose among our friends or deal with the hassle and so found other ways to include people. The woman who sees us as daughters married us, my older sister did my makeup, my younger sister signed our wedding certificate, and we each picked a friend to read a piece during the ceremony. A friend of mine threw us a wonderful bridal shower and we invited a couple friends to a pub one night to celebrate as a "bachelorette." I wouldn't change a thing about that. I loved not having to deal with a bridal party.

I am not having a bridal party. My mom, FMIL, and best friend will be getting ready with me at the venue.

View Quoted Comment Showers or bachelorette parties are not exclusively wedding party things to plan and hostess. Any close female friend not in the bridal party, and any close woman in either or both families, can throw a shower for you. Some people with no bridesmaids have 1 or 2 or even 3 small showers, if they have friends and family in different areas, and non bridal party people volunteer to hold them. It is quite common, quite traditional. And some like me, where all 4 BM and Maid and Matron of Honor were far distant, friends in 2 areas ( near college and grad school friends, near hometown) and third shower by MOG in yet another location, were planned with no help of my women, though they all attended my MOG party, 3 who were an hour away from her ( in 3 different states) Though 7 hours from me. And many, many people I give showers for, have wedding parties where maybe one or none can do a shower, or wants to, and I ask another friend not WP, or work with the one BM interested, and do the shower, with bridal party invited guests if they live within a reasonable distance. So do not feel, no wedding party means no showers or bachelorette party parties .

I have 0 girl friends. My bms are my cousin and my future sil. My sister is my MOH and my friend is my Man of Honor (I let him maintain the title but he was really demoted). There has been no drama. You're going to have a great wedding with or without bms.

We're just going to have our kids as our bridal party and we're not having any showers or parties. I don't feel like we're missing anything.

We did not have a bridal party, and I feel it was the best decision! I have seen/been in weddings with bridal parties and it has been nothing but drama. My mom threw me a bridal shower, and I didn't want a bachorelette party. The morning of my wedding was so relaxing, my mom and sister helped me get ready. I do not regret for one minute that we didn't have a bridal party.