No Maid of Honor?

You are looking at this all wrong. If you love them all and want them to stand up there with you, ask them to be bridesmaids. You don't need a maid of honor. It is pretty horrible to say you will choose a MOH based on who the "best bridesmaid" is. What does that even mean?

I dont think its necessary to have a MOH. Fh didnt want to have to decide on a best man between his 3 brothers since theyre all close, so theyre all just going to be groomsmen.

Btw no do not choose the 'best bridesmaid'. You should pick your MOH on how much she means to you. Naming a MOH is to honor that person not to get them to help you.

My family always jokes about how my younger sister and I were the "worst bridesmaids" at my older sister's wedding. We weren't familiar with any wedding etiquette and made the experience very stressful for the bride. She paid for our dresses, we complained, we didn't want to go to the showers, ect. Basically we broke every "rule". From vague conversations, my younger sister believes that the wedding party doesn't plan anything. It may sound terrible but I don't want to miss out on fun stuff like a shower and bachelorette party because of my younger sister. That's what I meant by a bad bridesmaid, if it makes sense?

Honestly, am I being a bad/ungrateful bride?

Have 2. I have my sister as my maid of honor & my best friend as my matron.

I don't have a maid of honor (couldn't choose between three best friends) and I have 6 bridesmaids. I divided up the maid of honor responsibilities amongst everyone based on people's strengths. That also helps prevent one person doing everything which can create stress. I've heard feedback from my bridesmaids that they like that I did it that way.

I don't have a MOH. I have 5 bridesmaids. They are happy as am I. It also helps prevent hurt feelings and drama.

I'd have more than one MOH

Is your older sister married by any chance? You can have a maid of honor and a matron of honor if she is. And if not, you dont need a maid of honor. Or they all can be it. If your heart is set on having one, then honesty with your younger sister is best. Tell her how much work, time, money, etc it takes to plan the wedding and ask her if she has the time for that, and explain you rather have her help when ever she can but also focus on her studies.

O I just read that your older sister is married. Name one your Maid of Honor and the other your Matron of Honor! Problem solved! lol

I'm kind of in the same boat as you except I have 3 sisters, 2 of whom are still in high school and then my other sister who is 13 months older than me.

Without a massive post, I ran into the hurt feelings and disappointment with my older sister who expected to be my MOH. My best friend didn't necessarily expect to be my MOH but she was kind of the shoo-in for the role simply because I know I can count on this girl for any and everything. My older sister, not so much. Her inability to follow through or be reliable has caused a huge strain in our relationship for many years and we have been working on mending it as best as possible, but I just feel and felt that she wouldn't be able to pull thru for me. Because of that, I just don't have a MOH and then THAT caused even more hurt feelings from my sister. I *did* tell my sister that I would love it if she helped plan a bridal shower since we have the same taste and style and she was extremely excited and honored. So far so good with that

However, my best friend demanded and volunteered to help me split up the planning workload and then offered to split that with my sister and they are working great together. The communication is there and I think that was probably the best decision I could have made with this. I'm thinking about maybe making my sister the Matron (that's if they're married, right?) of honor and my friend the Maid of honor since they are working so well together.

You could definitely do that since one is married and the other isn't. I'm also making my younger sisters my 'junior bridesmaids' so they feel involved with all of this, though I wouldn't expect them to have the same "duties" as the other BM's