no Long Speeches!! am i wrong?

I don’t think your wrong, but I do think that they are just so excited for you guys, that they just want to show their love... I do think two minutes it’s supper short!!! Maybe have less people giving speeches and add more time... good luck!!

I'm not sure why 5 different people need to give speeches at the wedding. That would be more time consuming than just having 1-3 make normal length speeches. I do think it's kind of rude to ask people to travel to be in your wedding and then cut them off when they're literally making a speech about you, but maybe that's just me. Splitting the speeches between the RD and the wedding sounds like a great alternative.

We didn't have any speeches at my wedding. My dad said thank you to everyone for coming before dinner and that was it. It's not crazy to limit speeches.

The last wedding I went to where they *didn't* limit speeches was ridiculous. Speeches went on, and on, and on . . .

Definitely speeches need to be limited - but you could split them between the RD and the reception and that would help

FWIW - we didn't have speeches either

I agree with you! There should definitely be a time limit or people will go on and on and on. I don't see anything wrong with that.
It's no disrespect to the family or friends who would like to give a toast but man, a time limit it needed lol.

I totally agree with you and we did the same thing. We limited it to only the MOH and BM. We didn’t even let my father speak. It was my second wedding and we paid for everything so he didn’t need to get up and talk all night. It will all work out.

You definitely do not want to let them talk for however much they want, or else it would go on and on and people will lose focus

View Quoted Comment She’s not asking how many people should speak, she is saying 5 are speaking but I want them to keep it short and sweet. Naikesha, I think it’s great you already saw your the best man give a lengthy speech and decided to handle this now. No guest wants to sit through 20-30 minutes of speeches. It may be super sweet for the bride and groom to hear but not everyone in the room wants to hear how great the same 2 people are for that length of time. We went to a family wedding last September and speeches were not planned out... someone decided they “wanted to say something” 😬 and got up very drunkenly to tell them bride how much she loved her and spilled some family drama. Needless to say, very awkward!

View Quoted Comment I’m very aware of what she asked. She also asked for opinions and I provided mine. I’m not sure why that compelled you to respond to my comment. Have a great day! 😁

Personally I would still have a limit to avoid ongoing talking, but I would at least give them more than two minutes. That seems stressful to have them on a time crunch when they’re giving a speech about you guys! Like others have said, maybe shorten the amount of people giving speeches to compensate the time a little. Best of luck!

View Quoted Comment I felt compelled to respond because a lot of these threads I see you participating in seem to be unsupportive and unhelpful answers. This is a community people come to for support, not to be criticized on how they’re planning. I’m allowed to comment just as much as you are. Happy wedding planning to you 😄

Nope, they shouldn't be speeches - they should be toasts. Toasts and short are sweet. No one wants to listen to long cringy speeches filled with history and inside jokes. Toast the couple and move on.

So no, you're not doing anything wrong

I wouldn't use the word wrong, but you've invited them to be a part of your wedding, and that wanted to express their feelings about you and you FH and i'm not sure telling them to shorten it was the right thing to do. It's your wedding though, and you should have how you want. If it was me though i'd love to hear what they have to say, and see their happiness for us

Why are there 5 different speeches? Most I have been to have just been 2. Maybe 3 if one of the parents decided to do one. I do agree that they need to cut them short if you are having that many. The last wedding I went to one of the fathers got the mic and rambled on too long shouting out every single family member that came. I would let those know they need to keep it short or will get the award show music lol

I think it is important to know that yes, speeches are beautiful, moving and sometimes funny. But no one wants to sit there for forever listening to people talk. In the end it’s the memories made that will be remembered, not the length of the speeches. I think ten minutes is very reasonable!

I cant say I blame you. It's always awkward when speeches drag out forever.

Why are 5 people giving speeches? It's typically just 2, the MOH and BM. I think you would be better off limiting the number of people speaking then limiting the amount of time they are allowed to speak. I enjoy hearing the speeches at weddings, but I would honestly be way over it by the time the 3rd person was done. 5 speeches might be too many. I would say have 2-3 speeches/toasts at 2-3 minutes a piece.

Granted no one wants to listen to long-winded speeches. And let's face it the length of the speech is usually directly proportionate to the number of drinks the speaker has had lol. As another person commented it should be a toast which is short and sweet, not a speech which implies long-winded. It's one thing to suggest a time limit but to have the DJ cut them off is kind of rude. After all these are people you love who love you and you asked them to be there for you. You can give them a little leeway.

I agree with you. I'm limiting the time on speeches at my wedding. I'm allowing more people to speak at the RD

I'm not sure why everyone is put off by 5 speakers. We had 4 (FOB, MOH 1, MOH 2, BM) at mine, and another wedding I went to had 6 (FOG, FOB, MOH 1, MOH 2, BM, GM). Most weddings I've been to have had 3-4 and I never felt like it was too much. Speeches are one of my favorite parts of weddings. I do think that a time limit is smart. Anything more than 3-4 minutes is way too much, unless it is super funny.