No kids wedding drama

@Lacie, you responded with grace and class. Kudos for standing your ground. Also, kudos for not over inviting and hosting something you cannot afford. Sometimes cuts are necessary, because hey guess what not everyone can afford to feed 150 people.

@Abbey you are definitely coming off as condescending whether it was intentional of not. You have your reasons for kids at your wedding and Lacie has hers. Be respectful. No one is saying you are doing anything wrong by having kids, just as Lacie is not doing anything wrong by not having them. Sheesh.

@FutureAbbey got upset and whined about kid-free weddings and made the judgement that only people without children would choose a kid-free wedding, then accuses others of getting upset and whining about her opinion.

I just read your subsequent posts, Abbey. This site is not for honest people? Are you serious? Did you not read the honest advice, to the tune of 500 posts, that was offered to a recent bride whose wedding (that's happening in two weeks) almost fell apart this week? This community came out in force to help her out of a situation she literally created herself. Believe me, the advice was about as honest as it gets.

As far as the topic of children at weddings is concerned, that's come up many times, and while there are always two sides of the debate represented in those threads, I don't recall them getting to the point that this one has. You came to a thread that was clearly entitled, "No kids wedding drama", and you posted your opinion. Had you just left your opinion, your post would have probably garnered little attention. You didn't. YOU judged those who don't share your opinion -- not the other way around. Once you did that, you knew you'd be directly addressed (and your post proves that -- "you have to agree with the crowd or everyone gets all upset and whines about it.") Just what did you think this particular crowd was going to be posting on this thread?

So, we're rude, judgmental, make ignorant comments, and only care about our own opinions. That's a heaping pile of judgment, and it came from you.

@FutureAbbey, glad that there's nothing else for you to discuss with your co-workers in the office than what you see on WW. Frankly, if I was one of your co-workers, I'd be a bit uncomfortable that you choose to spend your time bashing people you don't know online; not to mention that I'd be wondering why you'd spend your hours at work on a wedding forum.

Seriously, sounds like someone needs a hobby...

I was wondering why this was still going...

Wondering what LolliPOP pop in with that got flagged immediately...

So Abbey bashes everyone who wants kid-free weddings...and then says we're bashing everyone.

#Logic

The girls in your office laugh? Is that supposed to be upsetting? The vast majority of posters here give zero fucks about what the co-workers of an Internet stranger think.

@La Grosera, remember, she's protected by free speech! Logic no longer applies when that comes into play...

Abbey, you wrote, "I can say whatever I want within the WW guidelines". I'm not sure your admission keeps you within the WW guidelines. Isn't posting just to get everyone riled up a violation of the TOS? How much more does a poster need to say beyond this: "I can get on this site and have no problem getting all of you in an uproar of a small comment and honestly it's pretty funny....and make you all mad and it's very entertaining. My girls in my office laugh at all of you."

Mods, is this acceptable behavior?

Abbey's kids are 17, 16, 16, and 8. She won't attend a wedding they're not invited to because she doesn't leave them with people who aren't family? Can't the 3 oldest get together and take care of the 8 year old for 4 hours? I don't get it.

BTW abbey... I had kids at my wedding. No one slammed me. In fact, no one slammed that on this thread, because no one really cares if people have kids at the wedding or not. So, I'd say you and your office ladies can have a good laugh at how terrible your reading comprehension is.

Wow!! I hope I don't get a text like this.

Maybe it's just me, but I wouldn't want to bring my kids to a wedding. How could you have fun if you're stuck following around your kids to make sure they're being good? I have a 4 year old and wouldn't bring her, even if she was invited.

I quit drinking 10 years ago and I'm still having an adult only receprion venue with alcohol. Kids are cute but I'd rather have adults who can let loose and enjoy the party.

Wow!!! They were rude!!! But oh well. You handled it very well

Wow... you handled that so well!!!!!! I don't know you but I'm proud.

You handled that well. I think that between the time invites go out and the wedding date, there's plenty of time to arrange childcare. Most look forward to a nice adults only celebration.

Kids are expensive. Only MY kids will be at the wedding

Wedding receptions are not a place for children. Most adults and parents fully understand this. btw, she was rude.

I have this same problem and i just posted about it!!! This is such a common problem it seems but i think you handled it very well