No Kids, PERIOD!!!

You don’t state it on the invitation. You address to Mr & Mrs Soso, instead of SoSo family.

Could also put the below on the rsvp response Card:

“We’ve reserved x seats in your honor”

It’s incredibly rude to put no kids, or adults only on the invite.

ETA: sorry iPad went nuts.

Yep and put we reserved x seats in your honour.

I'm having the same kind of wedding! I've read on here you don't say no kids on the invites but I'm curious to see the responses as to what do you say haha .

You don't put it on the invite. You invite the specific adults you expect to attend on your invitation, and be prepared to decline additions your guest make.

Address the invitation to only those attending. Include a line reserving x number of seats.

Follow up with anyone who tries to RSVP with their children to let them know the invite was only intended for them.

There is no nice way to say who is NOT invited on an invitation.

You address the invitation by name to those who ARE invited. You can say how many seats are reserved on the rsvp card. You can mention it is an adult affair on your website.

Then you address any guests who seem to think otherwise. Don't make excuses or give reasons.

If someone raises the issue, you politely reiterate that we are not having children at the wedding.

If they change the number of seats on the rsvp card

"There must have been a misunderstanding. The invitation was for __ and ___. We are unable to accommodate the children. If this means you will be unable to attend, we will miss you at the wedding."

I dont think you can say it nice.

You guys say don't put it on the invite, put down number of seats reserved for that invitation, etc. what happens when an asshole mom or dad show up AT the wedding with their kid instead of their spouse?!?! How do you handle that?!?! Because no matter what you say, there will always be an asshole. Then your wedding that was supposed to be kid free is ruined.

What kind of people do you know that would do that?? None of my friends are assholes, and none of them would do that. We’d sure AF judge those that do. Not every parent is an inconsiderate asshole...

There is always at least one. So what do you do then?

Family member of mine included a note at the bottom of her invitation that said "Adult Only reception to follow"

Not in my circle, there is literally no one I know that would do that. Literally no one.... my group of friends is perfectly capable of leaving the kids at home with a sitter for a few hours.

There's always someone who says their sitter canceled last minute and they had no other choice but to bring them. I'm sorry, but I don't trust people and I don't believe parents are above that at all.

I believe that's a valid question whether or not you believe you don't know any assholes. What do you do in a situation like that? That's all I'm asking.

Not sure of your reception site but you could say "management prohibits those under 18 at the reception site" - puts the burden on someone else! Just say it on the RSVP card, NOT the invite. Also, if you are not into kids, people will know that and many will assume you want a grown up affair.

....................WW hates it but we put an insert in with our invites that said "adults only" and didn't have any trouble with RSVPs.

I also reached out separately to the two people I know who have kids and offered to get a sitter for them.

Well, as a parent, I’d call my friend and explain the situation. I’d also reiterate I’m trying to find a last minute sitter, but that I may not be able to, so I may not be able to attend.

I’ve been in this situation, not for a wedding, but for other events. Never once did it cross my mind to just bring my son anyway. I called the host, explained the situation and offered my apologies for the last minute cancellation.

As a bride, If they show , you have two choices, let them stay, or tell DOC to remove them.

Always is a strong word.

I don't even want nieces and nephews there.

I have every intention of adding no kids somewhere on our invites. I will not accept any children there at all. No exceptions.