No Kids, No Babies

We are also having no kids and no babies. You may get a little backlash but honestly stick to your guns. Unfortunately, if people aren't willing to come without their kids, then they probably won't be able to come to our wedding. We aren't budging on the no kids, no babies, etc. rule

How old are we talking? If we're talking infants then I understand why they'd want to bring the babies. They could still be breastfeeding.

I wouldn't worry about any of this until people actually bring it up to you. If certain relatives won't come because they can't bring their babies, oh well.

I was in a wedding a few weeks ago where there were a few kids, including a 1 month old. The baby started fussing during the ceremony and the mother just kept the baby right there, fussing throughout the entire ceremony. I barely heard the ceremony because of the fussing. That alone solidified why I won't be having kids at my wedding.

Babies that young can't always be away from there mums, if you want to keep your FMIL happy you'll have to budge on no babies, because the people she invited with young babies won't be able to come.

Generally nursing babies are considered an exception to "no kids".

That's exactly why I don't want any babies at the wedding!

We are also doing no kids and no babies. our venue would allow kids under 3 to be free but I'm not even interested in doing that. I wouldn't want kids to be unattended or babies to be fussing. I remember how my daughter was at the baby age and I would never put that on another bride or person in general to deal with on their special day. If people can't come because they can't find babysitters, then there's nothing you can really do. If they want to be there, they will really make the effort to get a babysitter.

It's not just finding the babysitter. It's also the expense. A sitter for three hours to go to dinner and a movie can be affordable. A sitter for seven or eight hours isn't.

If a couple has made the decision to not allow kids, even breastfeeding babies, they have no right to get upset if friends and family decide not to attend because of childcare issues or simply because they want to spend those hours with their children who are at daycare during the week.

So I said no children, however had to make an exception for my cousins on my dads side cause they are coming from Georgia and one of the kids is our flower girl and the parents are in our wedding. Then our other flower girl has a brother so they are all coming and then the one ring bearer will come but the other is going home. So I mean I get the babies and children and no babies dont belong but know some people just dont want to leave there babies so they wont come

That is a good point. But as soon as I make exceptions for one family's baby then I feel like I am going to upset other people as to whether why they can't bring their babies! You just can't win!

Totally agree but its your wedding you will never please everyone

To me, no kids means no babies. But I think some people (usually people with babies) don't want to leave their newborns if they have to breastfeed every so often or don't feel comfortable leaving them like they may leave a toddler with a sitter. Since your fiance already invited their baby, it would be weird to take it back now. I think if you have a no kids and no babies wedding, there shouldn't be any kids in the ceremony either. But that's just me! I know every wedding is different.

I am SO sick of this argument. Let me tell you, it ticks me off. I have been to more than a few weddings with screaming babies during the ceremony. The mothers just sit there and let it happen because they "don't want to miss the wedding", meanwhile they are ruining it! All you hear on the video is the screaming kid. Even side eye and looks of death...these people are the ones that will still sit there like it is no big deal their baby is screaming its head off. No babies! Or at receptions, toddlers running under everyone's feet. Or the kids take over the dance floor being little kids and the guests are done at that point being out there. Or, you have people that are uncomfortable drinking and being adults in front of little kids. They have to watch what they say and do because there are little ones running around, It just irks me to no end. Your child is not entitled to an invitation to each and every event. I wouldn't budge on it and I would be all over FH for doing so. Now the flood gates are open. You allow one, you allow all.

I would stick to your guns. If they cannot find a sitter...then sorry that you cannot make it. YOUR wedding should not be about "cousin Susan" and her 4 month old. It is about you. Allowing them to force you to change this is not cool.

I originally intended to have a no-kids wedding. I was doing it for both us and the guests - so that they don't have to watch them the entire time, not drink because their kids are here and leave early because its bed time. Then I read a lot of negative comments regarding that subject online, and received backlash from my own family. I didn't realize the idea is actually offensive. And we were already making exceptions for ring bearer, flower girl, and another so it was this huge complication.

Come the actual wedding, the children were not an issue. Most people only brought their older children. Looking back, I can't even really justify why I felt that way to begin with. I was a little sour that one acquaintance brought 5 kids.... as the hall didn't discount me for them. I saw that as a little selfish, but I could be wrong.

As far as a screaming baby in church... eh.. well, I can tell you that only ~5 things went wrong during that ceremony, most of them comically hilarious (Like all the men lining up wrong, standing for 15 minute segment we were not supposed to, a flower girl who wouldn't come out...) so really... how "perfect" can it be lol

All of these comments have me terrified for screaming children during the ceremony! Lol. FH's side has a lot of kids. A lot. So of course we are allowing kids at our wedding, but y'all have me worried! Hopefully if a child starts screaming, the parent or whoever is watching them will be kind enough to excuse themselves. We also aren't having any children in the wedding. If you aren't in my wedding party, I do not want you running up and down the aisle after your child who is having a temper tantrum. Nooooo thank you. Best of luck to all!

Naw don't worry. A child running loose is far less annoying than having people try to take pictures while your photographer is taking pictures. Especially when flash or red eye reduction ruins photographer pictures. So annoying that we had our priest ask people to stop and let the photographer take pictures. >.<

Exactly! I know the flower girls well enough but I don't know these other babies they were planning on having. No baby is "well behaved". They all scream and cry and fuss whenever they want to. And I don't know the parents well enough to say they would have the courtesy to not sit there holding a fussy baby during the ceremony.