No Kids, Exception for Cousin's Kid?

You can offer to pay for a babysitter or have a babysitter on site for her to leave him with. That way he's close enough for her to feel

Comfortable but he won't be at the actual wedding.

Put her son as ur mini ring bearer and if anyone ask he part of the wedding party

I would just invite the one kid. He's family, and she would probably appreciate it.

I feel like a version of this question is asked every single day...

How many other family children will be excluded? You have to cut people in circles. So if this is the only other family child, then I think it's perfectly fine to add him. If there are 10 other family children at the first cousin level, you might get some shade.

Ooo I like the ring bearer idea.

Children are people and you're allowed to invite them or not invite them according to who they are. Invite this cousin's son. It does not mean you have to invite others.

Also, the 4-year-old in the wedding party should be invited to the reception.

If you start making exceptions then your other guests will be upset. Let your cousin decline if she can't even go one evening without her kid

It would be boring for one kid without others. More or none, ideally.

I had a few cousins who did not attend our wedding because their children were not invited. It was unfortunate but that was the risk I took when I made the decision to have an adult only wedding. She doesn't like to leave the child with a sitter, which she is completely entitled to make that decision, but she has to understand that by doing so there may be events that she has to miss because of said decision. Its not ideal but the fact of the matter is you likely have many other guests who have made childcare arrangements for their children so they can attend your wedding. If attending your wedding is that important to her she should do the same. I have been to weddings that were "adult only" and when guests who arranged and paid for a babysitter saw other children there they were pissed! And I think rightfully so! I wouldn't make the exception, personally.

I think making an exception might upset your other guests who will have had to make arrangements to leave their children at home. As someone mentioned earlier, it might be boring for him if he is the only child. Also, your cousin would have to worry about tending to him the entire time when she should be there enjoying the party and your day.

I have a toddler and there's no way in heck, that I'd ever take her to a wedding.

We went to our first wedding, after she was born, when she was only a couple of months old. The band was so ridiculously loud, I would have had to take her home.