No Kids At Wedding

My sister's wedding was adults only (with the exception of kids in the wedding party)! Her guests all understood, no one gave her a hard time about it (at least, not that I'm aware of). My fiance and I are also planning to do the same thing, and so far, we haven't gotten any pushback from guests.

Our wedding will be adult-only. So far only 1 person has indicated they will not be attending because of it. Everyone else was completely understanding (and actually excited) about it!

Our wedding was adult only. I will say you should either allow everyone or no one to bring their children otherwise people are going to be upset that you allowed some people's children, but not others.

I have two children so maybe I can offer some insight from that perspective. I personally wouldn’t find it offensive, a wedding isn’t necessarily a fun place for children - especially the ceremony. I completely understand not wanting to have children at your wedding potentially disrupting certain parts.


We’re actually attending a wedding this weekend that is child friendly, however we’re choosing to not bring our children. I would be so worried my young children would decide to cry or throw a fit in the middle of the ceremony.

View Quoted Comment Yes this too. If you do child free it should be a complete rule in my opinion, that would cause some people to be upset I would imagine.

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We would do a complete child free wedding, but we have two immediate family children that are in the wedding. All of this brothers are groomsmen and they have children as well. My family is from Canada and the Philippines, so I know if we don't allow even immediate family children to come, my side of the family could not attend.

I do have on our website that only children of the family are to attend.

It's just an issue where our families wouldn't be able to come if we told them they couldn't bring their children either, but I do get what you're saying about making it a blanket rule!

View Quoted Comment We only had children in the wedding at our wedding which is pretty common. I can tell you from experience at my sister-in-law's wedding she allowed some people to bring children and the ones she didn't allow are still angry about it over three years later. Given what you have said, I would allow all children otherwise what you have done could cause a lot of drama and hurt feelings.

Also, here is an article from The Knot on kid-free weddings and how to make sure your guests are aware: https://www.theknot.com/content/adults-only-wedding-etiquette-no-children

All the weddings I've been to have been kid free. We're having a kid free wedding as well. I actually thought it was the norm lol I don't think it's offensive at all. Parents want a night out . . what better excuse than a wedding lol

Our big wedding will be no kids! The only kids allowed will be the kids in our bridal party which is our son, my stepson, and my niece and nephew.

View Quoted Comment Uhh no... people should understand...i only want immediate family (siblings kids) at my wedding since they will be in family pics from the photographer... i dont need all my FRIEND’S kids there as well, it can be a date for them, their inlaws can watch the kids... and most of my friends will be fine with this, btw... i really want my siblings kids in the family pictures

My brother had an adults only wedding. It was absolutely an issue for some people, especially my other brother. It was a HUGE thing for a while. The wedding, however, was fantastic! It was exactly what he and my SIL wanted, too.


I do believe that kids should be all or none. You cannot tell some guests that their kids are acceptable while telling others that theirs are not and not expect people to be upset.

I've been to multiple weddings where children aren't allowed. It used to be parents didn't expect their children to be invited to a wedding because it's an adult event. However nowadays some people get bent out of shape when you tell them no kids, I don't know why because it's more for adults and that's how it was back in the day. My cousin had a wedding with no kids and for the most part people were fine with it, but my brother and sister in law got bent out of shape over it. They felt offended that their kids weren't allowed. But if you are doing a no kid wedding except close family kids you will have problems. You can't tell someone their kids not allowed and then tell another that they can bring their kids. You will have some people feeling like you are singling out their kid. It's just best to do all or none with the exception of the kids in the wedding.

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We also attended a wedding that only had the family children there, and I don't remember anyone being upset about it. I think we're going to stick with what we feel is right, which is keeping it immediate family only. I get what everyone else above is saying about making it a blanket rule. But when my family and their kids live in two other countries and his whole family is in the wedding party, it's kind of hard to tell them they can't bring their kids.

I do appreciate everyone's opinions and feedback though! Thanks for the advice!!

We had no children at our wedding and honestly, it was awesome. I really had a great time and I am not a fan of misbehaving children, especially during my ceremony or reception dinner.

View Quoted Comment I totally agree. I'm the same way, I see it as I paid all this money and took all this time to plan my wedding. The last thing I want is for someones child to be throwing a temper tantrum at my ceremony/reception.