No kids at wedding

It's not rude to not invite kids, but specifically stating who isn't invited may seem rude. Just address it to the adult names and put two seats in their invite

Yes I have a line on the rsvp where I can write the specific number of seats. I'm not specifically stating who isn't invited. It's across the board no children.

That is always the wedding couple's choice. There is nothing wrong with either choice. I personally with my hours do not see my children enough so I respectfully decline such invitations but not with hard feelings. I understand and respect a couple's choice not to have children present so long story short there is nothing wrong with your decision.

It's fine not to invite them, but it doesn't belong anywhere on the invitation.

Your wording is extremely rude. You never put that on an RSVP card. What you do is put the number of seats and when you address the invite, you address it to Mr. and Mrs. Smith. That should be their hint. If they RSVP for, say, 4 seats instead of the 2 you're giving them, you call them and tell them kids aren't invited, but putting that on the invite is rude.

Also, if four of the couples who have kids are in your bridal party, why are you saying you're cool with people not coming because kids aren't invited? Are any of them from out of town? If so, I do think you need to check with them and make sure they're cool leaving their kids and traveling out of town for a wedding or else you may lose a bridal party member.

It is fine to have no children, but rude to explicitly say who isnt invited. "Due to venue capacity & efforts to stay within a budget, we regretfully request that no children attend." is explicitly saying who isnt invited.

I agree whole heartedly with PP. It is completely fine to not want children at your wedding. It is , however, incredibly rude to add a clause like that on an RSVP. If only a handful of your guests have children, why not either (1) write in the number of guests on the RSVP yourself and if they have questions about their kids they can ask OR (2) since most of the guests with children are in the wedding party (and so presumably some of the closest people to you and your FI) why not just give them a verbal heads up and move on. That way the parents know and you don't come off as rude or snarky with an absurd statement like that on the RSVPs that all of your guests will see.

Thank you! I think I will just stick to having the specific number of seats allotted and addressing mr and Mrs and just tell the handful of couples we are inviting that no children are allowed

@elizabeth what I meant was that if someone I invited was offended by my asking to not bring children then I would respect their decision to not come. No hard feelings. The couples that are in our wedding party are local so hopefully it will not be a huge deal. Thanks for your comment.

Not including children in your guestlist is fine.

This line is not "Due to venue capacity & efforts to stay within a budget, we regretfully request that no children attend."

Your budget is no one's business but your own. It would be terribly inappropriate to remind your guests that each one of them is costing you money.

Yikes that line you were planning for your RSVP card is awful. Glad you've changed your mind.

When you do specifically talk to those couples that have kids, just be casual about it.

"Hey X, I just wanted to give you a heads up that the wedding will be adults only." Telling them that "no kids are allowed" sounds a little harsh.

Our wedding also served alcohol and there were kids there.I hope you're not thinking kids equals a dry wedding. However, if you don't want to invite kids then you don't have to. Just be gracious if some people decline because they can't make childcare work or just don't want to attend without their kids. (for example, if it's a newborn or baby)

I put adult reception to follow on my rsvp cards or invitations...can't remember which

My cousin actually wrote out names on RSVP

John Smith will will not attend

Mary Smith will will not attend

She wanted to make it clear that invites were non-transferable. People still tried to cross off names. She had to call them and say sorry for misunderstanding, invite was for you and the Mr.

Just wanted to throw out there that we addressed the STDs and invites to just adults in the household, We did the number of seats reserved, and FH's daughter decided she could still bring her children. She RSVPed for one person (she was allotted two) and brought three children. She wasn't going to say anything - just show up with them (luckily someone mentioned i off hand or we wouldn't have even known she planned to bring them). If we could do it again - we would be make a blatant statement. The subtle etiquette methods don't always work on some of the younger crowd who don't think things like that apply to them.

I am jealous of your Bridal Balls and love your wording. It is not rude it is Well written and you go girl!

I don't know if it's an issue of age, but rather entitlement? We knew from past experience, that my uncle's family never thinks the rules apply to them. He was in his late 50s, at the time of our wedding.

Bear with me, as many on W/W have heard this story before, but a few years before our wedding my cousin got married. They didn't invite any kids, including the groom's nieces. Uncle said he was bringing his kids anyway. They came and were served kids meals; they insisted they eat adult food and the kids plates were left on the table. 2 kids meals wasted and 2 adult plates half eaten = $$$?

Before that incident, we were 99% sure we wouldn't invite anyone under 21, which is the norm, in our social circle. Afterward we were 150% sure. It was up to my father to e-mail his brother. He replied it might be problematic, despite them having a nanny.

My grandmother whined, but we didn't relent. No one volunteered to pay for them (full adult rate), or anyone else under 21, so they weren't invited. Uncle never RSVPd; the only invited guests (of 250) not to do so. They didn't even send a congratulatory e-mail. Needles to say, my sister didn't bother wasting an invitation on them, when she married the following year.

Never, ever put it on the invitation.

No ppl have kid free weddings every week! I will also be having one!