Taylor
Beginner October 2020

No kids at wedding

Taylor, on May 22, 2019 at 1:56 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 15
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Are any of you planning a kid free wedding? If so- how did you let your guests know? I know people are going to get their feelings hurt, but we aren’t kid people (don’t have a flower girl or ring bearer). How did you all let guests know, in a polite way, that no kids were allowed at the ceremony/reception?

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  • Future Mrs. K
    VIP June 2019
    Future Mrs. K ·
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    We put it on our website and we addressed our invites to Mr. and Mrs. _____ only not The ____ Family. It has worked for us, we didn't get anyone who tried to RSVP with their kid.

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  • LB
    Champion November 2016
    LB Online ·
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    We just addressed the invites to who was invited. ie Mr. and Mrs. Smith, not "The Smith Family". We only had one cousin ask (actually my H's aunt called to ask for her son) if they could bring their kid because their child care feel thru (2 months in advance...). We just said unfortunately we can't accommodate as my cousins' kids weren't invited either and we didn't think it was fair to them to make an exception.

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  • Mariangeli
    Devoted October 2019
    Mariangeli ·
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    I am putting it on my website on a FAQ page, and I am adressing the invitations only to the Mrs and Mrs instead of writting "The Smith Family". Most kids are family so we are making sure we are on the same page with my FMIL that she knows which are the only kids invited (a few of my FH's cousin's kids which are basically like his nephews). I figure most familiy members are going to ask her directly so we made sure she knows. I am also doing online RSVP and on The Knot the guest has to type in their name to RSVP so they will see that their kids name's will not show up.

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  • Taylor
    Beginner October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    Awesome thank you!!!
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  • Jessica
    VIP June 2020
    Jessica ·
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    I am covering all he bases here so there is no question. I do not have a website so I didn't put it on one lol. I am writing our STDs and invitations with specific people instead of families, at the bottom of the invitations I put * Adults only affair*, and on the RSVPs I put "we have reserved __ seats in your honor".

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  • Soon2Bmrsp
    VIP May 2019
    Soon2Bmrsp ·
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    I put on my invitations Adults-Only reception and was happy that I did
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  • Taylor
    Beginner October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    Oh I love the ___ sears reserved. That’s a good idea!
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  • Jess
    Super September 2019
    Jess ·
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    First we put a note on our wedding website stating we have chosen a primarily adult only ceremony and reception. Second we put adult reception to follow on our invitiations. Hopefully between these two things people will understand no kids allowed.

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  • Yasmine
    Dedicated November 2019
    Yasmine ·
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    We are only addressing our STDs and invites to those who are invited. Also, on our "Day Of" page on our website, where we have all the other info, we state that while we love the little ones in our lives, we've chosen to have an adults-only wedding.

    For family and/or people who we know likely won't even read the site, we've just mentioned it to them ourselves.

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  • Toni
    Expert January 2020
    Toni ·
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    My fiancé and I are having a kid free wedding due to our venue being a historic building and also a 40 per son maximum. We put on the RSVP “please note this is an adults only affair” (including a part that says we have ___seats reserved in your honor) it’s also written on the welcome page in our wedding website. And just in case we are mentioning it to our guests who we know have children just so they aren’t blindsided.
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  • Courtney
    Dedicated July 2020
    Courtney ·
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    This is what we plan on doing!

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  • Megan
    Savvy June 2019
    Megan ·
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    Not rude at all! There is so much accommodating that has to be done if kids attend a wedding. From music, to entertainment, to food. Most people who have ever been involved in planning one will sympathize with that. If you have a wedding website, an FAQ page is a great chance to get all of those awkward requests out of the way. Dress code, plus ones, and other topics that don't feel right to put on an invitation are easily broadcasted this way. I would not put this just on the website though, as older folks tend not to visit your page. "Adults only reception to follow" is a surefire and short way to get your message across on your invitations.

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  • Taylor
    Beginner October 2020
    Taylor ·
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    I haven’t even thought bout doing a website- I love addressing the dress code on there too. Thanks for all the advice!
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  • H
    Savvy August 2019
    Heather ·
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    Mine is kid free, except for my 11 year old and my bridesmaid 12 year old. My niece and nephew who are in the wedding 10 and 15. My side of the family does not have a lot of kids, but my FH side has TONS, we just don't have the extra money since we are paying for this. Everyone is understanding only one asked. On my RSVP I put ME and my plus one will be attending OR I will be attending Then at bottom I put I will not be attending. Different words but same idea. All places to write their names in and plus ones. No room for anything else.

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  • Lenaya
    Dedicated January 2020
    Lenaya ·
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    "adults only reception" is what i'm going to put on my invitations and i'm going to address them specifically too.

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