No kids at the wedding 😅

If you don't do it people will bring their kids. We're having a no kids wedding as well

View Quoted Comment How did you word it? I just feel so bad! 😂

We have a section on our details page.

"Tiny Humans: Make it a date night and leave the little ones at home. Adult only reception."

I would just place a small FAQ card in there with details like address and menu options and add "our wedding will be an adults only affair, guests will be 18 or older"
If anyone asks you about it just say you didn't have room or the bidget to invite all the kids.
Stick to your guns.

We got a wedding invitation from friends that didn’t say anything about no kids, but was just addressed to us and we assumed out kids weren’t invited. Not everyone will get those subtle hints unfortunately. They did put it on their website in their FAQs, we’ll see in October how many people read that. We know the couple well and they don’t plan on having their own children at this point and like to party, so we figured it’s not going to be a kid friendly kind of event. Your friends and family can help spread the word that you’re planning adults only too, but I don’t think there’s anything wrong with an insert and it’s definitely more likely people will pay attention to it. I don’t have any clever way to word it, I’ll come back if I think of something! Good luck!

We didn’t put it on our invites, just our website. Our invites were addressed only to named invites (John and Jane Smith, not the Smith Family), and on our rsvp cards we did “__ of __ attending” and filled in the second number. We also started word of mouth, amongst aunts and uncles to hopefully have them pass the their kids (who are the ones that have all the children). We didn’t have any issues or anyone trying to reply with uninvited kiddos, but I know my crowd seemed easier going than most— no one was mussed by the exclusion . The most conversation I really had about it was someone with an infant asking if we were including kids —to which we said no, but feel free to bring your infant as the exception to the rule— and she said “nah just planning ahead” (lol tbh I think we had this conversation before the kid was even born haha)

That’s tacky and so is putting it on the invitations in the first place. Not inviting kids should make it clear enough that kids aren’t invited. If people try to add them to their RSVP cards, you can clarify. You could also mention it on your website.

I think it depends on the people you’re inviting. If I don’t make it explicitly clear in at least three places that it will be a child-free wedding, my family will most definitely show up with them. Honestly, they probably still will because they’ll be convinced it “won’t be a big deal.” I would absolutely find a way to make it explicit if you’re worried about people not realizing the cards addressed only to the invited guests.

I definitely wouldn't add a slip in the invites with a cutesy saying. Being more straightforward is the way to go, in my opinion. As PPs said, address invites only to the people invited and not, for example, "The Smith Family". Hope this helped a bit

Agreed on nixing the slip. We just wrote the invitations as Mx and Mx Johnson instead of the Johnson Family. Only a handful of people thought their kids would be invited but we were sure to include __ out of 2 on the RSVP card so they knew it was only for the two of them.

We included it it on our FAQ page on our wedding website

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At the bottom of the invite I put adult only reception to follow. Then on the website we put this is an ADULTS ONLY WEDDING AND RECEPTION. NO CHILDREN ALLOWED EXCEPT THOSE IN THE WEDDING PARTY. and yes it was in all caps lol. We also told everyone that we spoke with no kids and told them to spread the word.

But also on our website we did list the services of a teacher friend if someone needed a sitter. But we are not paying for it. We just listed her credentials/contact info and said reach out to her for rates. Space is very limited so reach out asap. She's been getting several calls and text messages people requesting to book her services

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We did something similar and said 2 seats have been reserved in your honor or something like that

My thing is we already had invitations printed and forgot to add it to that, that’s why we talked about doing a little slip and only adding it to the people that have kids because it doesn’t pertain to some people.

The way you address you invites should clearly state who is invited. For example “Mr. and Ms. Smith”. As long as you don’t put “and family”, that should be pretty self explanatory. However, you can add a section on your wedding website stating that it is a child free wedding. You can also put it on a details card. But I wouldn’t put it in a slip of paper.

View Quoted Comment You’re right, SHOULD be clear, but I feel like a lot of people will still try to rsvp for them.

We put on the RSVP #of adults attending & we also added on the wedding website that unfortunately we are unable to accommodate any children besides those in the wedding party. So far, these have both worked. Ppl have asked us what the age limit is for the kids at the wedding - mind you the kids were not listed on the envelope, so without this information I think that more people would have RSVP for children.

I don’t think the slips are a big deal! Who is gonna open it and think anything of it ?? That’s weird lol. And as people above said address it to the adults only so Mr. and Mrs. blank. Don’t put family. We aren’t having kids at ours either

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I feel like even putting just Mr and Mrs isn't clear to some people, I mean it SHOULD be clear but I don't think it is. We ended up putting it in the FAQ and if people ask we will just tell them. If kids show up, whatever but we're not going to promote it, but also not going to kick people out of the wedding that do bring them. My future mother in law was like well maybe we should make a kids table just in case and I was like nope we're not promoting it and not going to advertise that there will be a kids table.

View Quoted Comment We did that too! It’s like the second question on there 😂

It's your wedding and you should be able to do whatever you want. I'd slip that little extra note in saying who can or can't bring kids to your big day.

We are still having the debate if we are having kids at the wedding or not. As of now, we think kids of the wedding party and family are fine to come but may say no to the rest of the guests to help the day go by smoother and don't waste money on extra food that the kids will most likely not eat haha.