No kids at the wedding

Just address the invite to the adults, and on the RSVP card say "2 seats have been reserved in your honor" (or whatever number)

I agree with the above posts, we are doing the same but we actually started telling our friends/family by word of mouth too, most of them asked if we were having kids and we were just honest about it. So far no flip outs but it's still early

Would it be in bad taste to put it on our wedding website ? I just feel like if we don't directly say no kids there could be some confusion .. and since the wedding website is on the save the dates , if people have issues we ca address them now

Keep in mind that you're not doing anything wrong and it's something they've most likely experienced at another wedding before. It's a personal preference as well something determined by your venue space and budget. If someone does try to convince you to include their kids, stand your ground. If the people who got a sitter for their kids see other kids at the wedding, they will be pissed off and rightfully so.

My family has been hosting adult weddings since my Mom was a kid - around 50 years ago.

Ours was 21 and up. Guests got save the dates 10 months before the wedding, addressed to only adults. Our wedding website address was on the StDs. On the first page we put a blurb "Our ceremony and celebration have been planned for guests 21 and up."

Of 250 guests invited 225 attended. One couple said they didn't have a babysitter. One couple boycotted, because of it, and didn't even have the courtesy to RSVP (and they had a nanny). Oh well ...

Just invite the couple/parents by name and put "2 seats reserved in your honor" on the RSVP card. You are doing nothing wrong by not inviting children.

Children are not entitled to an invitation just because they exist, and I do not understand the mentality of parents who think that their children deserve an invitation to every event ever just because it is happening. As long as you are consistent and don't give anyone special treatment, it's perfectly fine.

This topic comes up multiple times a week. You address the invitation to the adults and put "X seats have been reserved in your honor". You can also mention it on your wedding website. You might get declines from people because of this reason, especially from out of town guests. You can provide an explanation if someone specifically asks, but I doubt most people will ask why they can't bring their kids. If they are offended they will just decline.

Hi Jessica! It's totally fine to choose to have an adults only wedding, and it's also fine to make an exception for your children

Like the previous posters have suggested, I'd address the save the dates and invitations to exactly who is invited ("Mr. John Doe and Mrs. Jane Doe" instead of "The Doe Family"), and add a "we have ____ seats reserved in your honor" line to your RSVP cards. I'd also let your bridal party and immediate families know up front that this is an adults only wedding, so they can help subtly spread the news and field any questions from other family and friends!

https://www.weddingwire.com/wedding-ideas/etiquette-advice/kids-in-weddings-etiquette

Thank you everyone ! I will diffidently be using that wording ! Fingers crossed no drama !

I agree with MAMW.

Don't put it on the invite. Invite the specific people you want to have come. Be prepared to let people know that you cannot accommodate children.

When people make the decision to have children, there are certain activities that might no longer be in their repetoire....sky diving....spontaneously leaving for Europe.....drinking gin for breakfast. These are the tradeoffs; the responsibility is theirs, not yours, and if they can't or won't arrange for childcare, they don't come. It's that simple.

And do keep in mind that it's THEM who are being rude, not you.

I've always thought the whole "no kids" thing is so rude BUT that's just how my family does things. Every single person is included. I would just say be prepared to have many leave extra early. My cousin did "no kids" a few months ago (yes, there was an uproar but mainly because she only allowed certain families to bring their kids) please don't do that. Your kids are fine!

I know many are advising against putting it on the invitation, however, I put it on ours because I wanted to make it very clear that no children were allowed at the reception. I worded it "adult only reception" and included the venue address underneath. I don't find it to be rude, I completely understand why the bride and groom wouldn't want children at their reception. Ultimately it's up to you and whatever you're comfortable with.

I received a wedding invitation that said "In order to allow all guests, including parents, an evening of relaxation we have chosen for our wedding day to be an adult only occasion."

The venue was at a vineyard, and I found it perfectly acceptable!

No matter what you do someone will send you a note or say in passing "I plan on bringing little so and so" and you'll have to say (again) it's adults only. Some will be fine and others will be annoyed but that is on them, not you. Just be prepared and stick to your guns.

I have a frequently asked questions section on my website. One of the FAQs I included were "Can I bring my kids?" and I put something to the effect of "We wish we could invite everybody and their families. Unfortunately, due to venue constraints, we've had to limit children to immediate family only."

People in my area have very big families, and most have their weddings at local churches with very simple catering or potlucks to accommodate. I figured the wedding website's purpose was to give information, so I decided to include it there if someone was seeking the answer.

Don't include that info in the invitation. Put it in your RSVP cards and also your website.