No kids and covid ...

I would just say no kids entirely instead of asking for only kids under a certain age.

I think I would just say “adults only”. You could have the line read something like “Due to COVID restrictions, this will be an adult only affair.”

Are you planning to give any more guidelines with COVID? Masks recommended? Sanitizer provided?

View Quoted Comment Yeah, our plan is to let guests know that mask are highly encouraged, but not required and sanitizer will be provided My FH and I are deciding if we should get masks to have available or if we should have people bring a mask if they want to wear one.

We had to make the same tough decision as our venue can only allow 50% occupancy. I included an insert with the invitations explaining this as well as our plans with Covid. I think I worded it as “Adults only except for those specifically invited” as I still invited my nephew.

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We’re going to do something like this for the covid part. I just have to figure out how/where to and incorporate the no kids/adults only part. Maybe something like, while we’d love for everyone to attend, due to Covid-19 and venue restrictions, we have chosen to make this an adults only event.



My plan is to also put this on our wedding website. The other tough part is that we already have our invitations, so I either need to make new address labels so that the households that say “and family” no longer say that. And we have a “kids” option. How does one tactfully eliminate that? I don’t really want to pay hundreds of dollars again ordering new invitations, but if that’s the best option, it’s what I’ll have to do.

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Yes, I agree, it’s a good idea to explain the reasoning. I made a Covid-19 page on our wedding website with a statement as things stand currently and will make updates to the page if needed.

I’m not sure how to go about eliminating “Family” Is that on the envelopes? If so I would make an address label as you said.

Our’s were handwritten since we’re having a very small/intimate wedding, so I ordered some more envelopes to revise what I had previously written Family, etc. I made sure to make them out specifically to the people we intend to invite. It’s pretty stressful all of the changes and challenges this is presenting, really makes you think outside of the box!

View Quoted Comment Our invites are an “all-in-one” so once the open it, they rip off the bottom 3rd , which is their RSVP, fill it out and send it back. We went through minted.com so all the addressing was free, so I chose that because I didn’t want to had address all the invitations (I did that for our save the dates). So the addresses part reads “Mr. & Mrs. _____ and family”. So I’ll probably just have to make new address labels and put it over the Arcady printed address

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I think the relabeling would look better than trying to white out or using correction tape.

View Quoted Comment For sure!
For the “kids” meal option and taking it away. Could I get away with putting a 0 or — on the line or a line through the whole thing?

View Quoted Comment I would put a line through it.

Do not write who is not invited, on an invitation. No categories, no specific ages. It is fine to have no children, or to only want a few near and dear kids, not kids of all guests. And you may decide on age appropriateness, that only high schoolers and adults should br at a late, talk and dance and drink reception, or only over
16, whatever. Just do not say it on an invitation. If some kids are invited, do not put adults only on, or some people will complain about any child they see. You may write, this will be a formal adult reception. ( Not, no children.) Just carefully address it to the adults by name. RSVP the total as the ones invited, or write names on RSVP cards. You may comment on some other place, like your website, but not on invitations. No negatives there.

Know your guests. Where I am, if you put masks are not required, almost every will stay home. They won't risk their health, and their family's health, for a few guests who may choose not to wear them.

View Quoted Comment I think many people now have their own cloth masks, but if you could find a box of disposable masks just in case. I really wouldn’t go through the expense of custom cloth masks, especially when many people who would want to wear a mask would have their own.

View Quoted Comment I understand what you’re saying, but then that’s their choice to stay home. Masks will be encouraged, guests can do what they want with that information.

I put “adults-only celebration” on the bottom of the RSVP card in italics. The wording sounds more inclusive and positive than “no kids”

View Quoted Comment Agreed! I by no means want anything to come off sounding negative

View Quoted Comment True. I was saying it as a warning. I have read here what my husband's youngest sister decided to do. She decided, rather than choose masks/ no masks, she would leave it up to guests ( though she and immed. family wearing masks.) What she did not consider is that to most who have quarantined, and are just out, the possibility that even one non-mask wearer over 6 will attend, " spoils the soup. All but 6 of 47 invited, declined because all will not be wearing masks. Including all her sibs and parents who had said they were coming, until she decided, let each person decide. So now, she can have her MIL, her date, and 2 friends of FI who wear masks at work, and their wives. And no one else will come. Free choice sounds great. Reality people must look at, is that it could be costly. Either SIL and FI, change. Or a wedding scaled down twice, and relocated, at a few thousand in penalties, now will have 3 guests they care about who would have come either way ( for sure, others not asked) . 2 they do not give a hoot about. And 41 empty seats and meals to throw out. SO, know your people.

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I'm totally ok if people have their own homemade/cloth/other type of masks and what to use them. I think we're looking at getting single use masks to have available for people. Having cloth ones made for everyone definitely is not in our budget. We will also be placing hand sanitizer at each table.

View Quoted Comment Sounds like a good plan.