No Kids Allowed?

I might phrase it as an "Adults Only Celebration" or something like that, rather than no kids allowed. Whether or not you include kids is totally up to you, but I think some people could find "No Kids Allowed" rude

View Quoted Comment YES!!! I like that way better! Thank you Lydia.

Generally it is considered rude because your invitations and website are meant to welcome who IS invited, not who isn't. You can put an FAQ on your website stating something like "Due to the venue's restrictions, only guests pver the age of __ can be accommodated." On your RSVP cards, you can write "2 seats have been reserved in your honor" to make it clear that only the adults are invited.

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I also found this post that has some other phrasing options as well!

https://theweddingplaybook.com/adults-only-wedding-wording/

View Quoted Comment Thank you Jasmine! I think this could be helpful. We have a lot of family members with children. Two people alone have 4 children each. And honestly we don’t want a bunch of kids running around the venue. I think the FAQ could work the only thing is will they actually read it.

View Quoted Comment Perfect! Thank you so much!

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“Our wedding is an adult friendly event therefore were requesting that no children be in attendance.”

View Quoted Comment Thank you Lisa!!

On our website FAQs we worded it "unfortunately, we are unable to accommodate children at our ceremony or reception." On our invites we're planning to have either "Mr. and Mrs. So-and-so" or "So-and-so and Guest" on the invite and then "# seats have been reserved in your honor" on the RSVP cards so there's a clear understanding about who's invited. Our venue has an age restriction, and unfortunately all our family and friends' kids are under that cut off.

View Quoted Comment Do you think you’ll get any push back from your family members? I have a coworker who put no kids allowed on their invitations and her uncle was pretty upset about it.


I like what you put for the FAQ. I think adding it to the website is a good idea. My biggest fear is having it on there and people still showing up with their kids.

View Quoted Comment Push back is possible, but at the end of the day, don’t sweat that. I know it’s easier said than done, but the same happened with my cousin. They had an “adults only” wedding and some family members on both sides got upset. My aunt and uncle took care of this for her by talking to said guests. I would advise you have your parents talk to anyone that complains about this in order to take the stress and burden of those conversations off of you (your the bride! You have a lot to deal with already! 😂). My cousin’s situation had a good ending: the family members eventually got over it and happily celebrated the couple on their day! 😊

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Adult-only weddings aren't a new thing, so I'm hoping that everyone can act like adults about it and respect our request. We tried to word the request respectfully, gave everyone advanced notice, and we get that that may result in some people not being able to attend everything. Also hoping "venue said no" rather than "we said no" will help it go over a little easier. At the end of the day, I can't control other peoples' emotions, so if someone makes a fuss then there's really not much I can do. We don't have the money or the ability to make everyone happy.

View Quoted Comment Thank you Erin! I think having my parents have those conversations is a good idea! That way they can take the heat and not me LOL

View Quoted Comment That’s very true. I also think the advanced notice will be helpful as it gives people the opportunity to plan ahead. Thanks a lot Paige!

Etiquette-wise, the actual proper way to do it is to invite whomever is invited on the actual invitation envelope. In the response card or website, put:

"_2__ seats have been reserved in your honour ____ attending"

If you get responses with more than "2" attending then call and explain the situation by saying "very sorry, we can only accommodate the people we listed in the invitation".

View Quoted Comment Thank you Jacks! I just hope people don’t think that second spot is for their child.

This is a great post! I was wondering the same thing as I am aiming for an "adult only celebration" myself. Thanks for posing the question.

View Quoted Comment Sure thing Joi!