No kids allowed

Indicate on the invitation that two seats have been reserved in the couples honor. Don't write " no kids" or "adult only" on the invite, simply say 2 of 2 seats have been reserved in your honor, "no kids" will be spread by word of mouth.

Write 'no children' on the invitation.

No don't do that. But I do find it funny my moh had the balls to do that. We're both on the same page when it comes to kids--best left to others.

Follow @Mrs. Coakley's advice and you'll be good.

Do you only have one niece?

I will say having your siblings' child there and not fh might not go over well.

But overall - invite who is invited

@erinc yes I only have one niece. He has two nieces and soon to be three nephews. Although (this may make me sound bad), it is his step sisters children. (3) and his brothers son and soon to be son again. We don't get invited to a lot of things for either of them and the kids will be from newborns to age 3/4. They're all very very energetic and his brothers side has a way of making everything they attend about them (ex: announcing their child's gender at our engagement party).

I've seen some invites that say "21+ only" or say that the venue allows only 21 and over?

If you really don't want to burden people hire a teenager or two to babysit for the night if it is possible.

We're not allowing children simply bc it's my day and while I don't hate children I don't think children belong at my wedding and don't want anything to ruin my day...

All my invites were addressed to mr&mrs ... I didn't mention no kids were invited however I numbered my rsvp cards.. so if a couple got an invite and they were 55 and 56 on my list 55 and 56 were written on the rsvp card... those with children did ask and were told get a babysitter or don't come (in a nicer way of course)

Our venue has been instructed to have the valet guys refuse to let those with kids park/enter.

I lost my job in January so I can't afford to pay for any extra seats and whatever money FH and I get is going towards our house

I would be careful with how you handle this because it might be offensive to not include his nieces and nephews ( Step or not)

So having the valets refusing to let people who happen to bring their kids won't cause a scene?

I wrote on my details card that the reception is adult only. Some people may tell you that try don't go unless their kids are invited, but don't let that change your position.

I'm sure we will re hash the guest list to see if we can get the kids there. I figured I'd rather have it is all, not just one couple gets to bring their kids. My niece is the flower girl and both of her parents are in the bridal party. I don't want it to happen where we have enough spaces for someone to bring their two kids but for his sister to not be able to bring her three little guys.

I would hate for his family to think its something against THEIR kids, it's just a very limited venue. I have a family of about 20 and his is about 45 ish so most of the guests will be his family also.

I would have this is an adult only affair.

Try searching for this issue in the forums. It's discussed at least once a week, worded pretty much exactly how you worded it. This is nothing new.

No, you don't write it anywhere on the invitations or with the invitations. That is extremely rude.

Invite only the guests you want, by name. This means the adults.

Spread the word verbally.

If it suits your purposes to have a wedding website with more information about the event, you may include an insert in the invitation that reads something like, "For more information about out wedding, please visit____." Then on your website you may list information about your wedding being for adults only. Added bonus: you may also list registry information on your website, since it's super tacky and rude to list that information in your invitations, too.

I arranged for a babysitter at my venue. I did not tell all guests. I only told one guest who approached me concerned he couldn't find a sitter. I informed he I would provide one.

Sabrina... yikes!

Lots of strange going on in that response.

But, I agree with PPs. Don't write it on the invitations, just write how many seats are reserved and stand firm!

I pretty much covered all grounds to get this word out: addressed the STDs/invites to those specifically invited, put it on our wedding website; and informed guests verbally as early as possible. Your wedding is in April - get the word out as soon as you can if you choose to make your event and adults only evening.

On your response cards, put the names as well as address the envelopes to the adults only.

This needs to be a sticky, since yes, it does come up about twice a week.

PP's have pretty much covered it. Address the invites to the specific people you want to come; don't put 'and family', don't put 'adults only' on the invite or the STD.

And rehearse this in the mirror; "I'm sorry, we can not accommodate children at the ceremony or reception. We would love to have you and your partner attend, but we will certainly understand if you can't and must resort to sending us a giant check instead. " (Just kidding...)

You're hosting the event; you have a right to have whoever you want there, young or old. You can obviously have children who are in the BP there, and I'd say nephews and nieces too, if you're close to them. I wouldn't personally get involved with babysitters; they had the children, not you, therefore they are the parents' responsibility. And I don't know how many parents would feel comfortable leaving their kids with a strange sitter (I mean, I really don't know; maybe it would be fine....

I would suggest whatever you do - do not lie. Don't say its 21+ when its not. Your neice will be there people will figure out its not. Plus Google will show you are not being truthful.

I stand by the fact that i think it is fine to invite only your neices and nephews - but inviting yours and not his is going to be hurtful to the relationship with his family in my experience

I did the whole we have two seats reserved in your honor instead of out right saying no children allowed besides those in the bridal party and I've only had one person ask about it.