no kids allowed

We are not have children at our wedding either (except my niece and nephew, who are the FG and RB) but we put on the invitation that this is an adult only party, or something to that effect. We are having a DW and I want my guests to enjoy the weekend/wedding without having to be mom/dad the whole time.

Here’s my wedding website faq

Nothing wrong with not having kids. Address invites correctly with names and make it clear on things that it is adult only. There are non-antagonising ways to do it.

However be aware while many people will have no issue with having an adult only event many people may feel uncomfortable leaving their children to be looked after by people they don’t know/haven’t met prior. So don’t assume that you solution of using people from your church will fix some peoples issue when it comes to childcare

View Quoted Comment 100% agree with all of this. Also, understand people may rsvp no if their children aren’t invited and you need to be ok with that.

Your FMIL might be saying that if any of the kids are her grandkids (she might want them there, but it’s not her wedding so ignore her). You can totally say no kids allowed but let them know if they want to bring them you have babysitters available.

We had one person bring their kid to our wedding. We didn’t really heavily communicate that to this guest but it was a baby and he did really good during the ceremony and I didn’t notice he was there until after. I am all for no kids it just has a different vibe. I love the way Peggy put it on her website.

View Quoted Comment She doesn’t have any grandkids.

We’re having no kids. I won’t even have a RB or FG (long story). I’m only worried about my stepbrother’s wife being upset but my mom said she’d handle it for me. I also know my cousin won’t come from out of state with her two young girls but I don’t think she’d come even if she didn’t have kids.

Our wedding isn’t super fancy but I don’t want to deal with hearing children cry during my vows, or have the parents not enjoy their time because they have to watch their kids.

The youngest coming is 13 but she is my BM’s daughter and we promised she could come. I know she’ll behave, especially since several other members of her family are coming.

We are having a destination wedding in Vegas and are not having small children. There is nothing wrong with giving parents a break for your wedding or the weekend if it’s a DW. We’ve already had very excited parents tell us they have sitters lined up and our wedding is next summer.

I think adding it on the invitation adult reception would be fine. Saying no kids allowed sounds to me very rude vs adult reception.

As a daycare teacher thank you for considering a pool for a major reason not to want kids at a wedding. I would put adult only.

We do not want a bunch of kids either because our venue is a fancy restaurant but i am not sure how one would say this not being rude!

This was something I really wanted to do, but FB insisted we allow kids, it was one of the only things he really had a strong opinion about so I agreed. Yesterday we were at my cousins wedding and there were LOTS of kids and it was SO loud and distracting. He immediately leaned over to me and said "Is it too late to now allow kids at our wedding?" Unfortunately, yes it is, I told him. Luckily, not many people invited have small kids so hopefully it won't be an issue. But if I could I would 100% do a child free wedding! Go for it! I think it's fairly common now to do this, so I think people should be pretty understanding!

Nope. I have a FAQ section on my website. "Are kids allowed at the wedding" My response? "As much as we love the kids, this will be an adults only affair"

View Quoted Comment I like the wording of this.

OP, be sure to make it clear that the whole event is child free. Some PP mentioned stating it’s an adults only reception. But that could lead to the misconception that the kids ARE allowed at the ceremony. Which would be the most distracting part! And don’t let anyone guilt or bully you into allowing kids. Good luck!

It’s totally ok to have a kid-free wedding. Most guests will be fine with it. Someone will make a stink about it. One or a few will RSVP no.

(The exception is usually to allow children under 1 year, especially since they may be breastfeeding. Although one of my few friends with a baby was thrilled to have her parents babysit so she and her hubby could enjoy “grown up” time and drink/dance.)

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Thank you! I wanted to get the point across without wording it in a nasty way. I'm glad that it was received well!

My wedding is no kids too except for my flower girl. My side of the family really doesn’t have kids except her. My fiancé’s side has more kids. But we decided to not have kids at the wedding. Inevitably one or two may show up but we will manage

I always imagined having kids at my wedding, however as I’m now in the planning there are just too many kids. Just my family without kids is 84 people. With kids- 126. That’s not FH’s side and our friends. So we discussed it and decided that my nieces and nephews (all of whom are part of the wedding party) and the children of the people who have to travel more than 2 hours will be invited. This will be my 5 nieces and nephews and 4 others. I’m finding that there are so many decisions you have to make that no matter what you decide someone won’t be happy but you have to do what works for you. The good thing for me is that our family has had a wedding every year for the past five years and all have done the same. Being a big fan of kids if someone shows up with their kids I wouldn’t freak out. Stuff happens- babysitters cancel id just hope there’s enough chicken tenders. Lol
I was at a friends wedding where it was on the invite and the website that it was adults only reception yet when we were there, there were at least three kids I saw. I don’t have kids, but it was very clear to me that if I had them I’d need to make arrangements. I don’t know if the bride and groom were aware in advance of the children attending or not but they were not out of control and really not an issue, I was just surprised to see them.

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Very nice way to phrase it!