No ideas for decorations or themes

I would just scroll through Pinterest or show him ideas of what you like.

Maybe figuring out your colors first and going from there on Pinterest.

I think it also depends on your location because for instance outdoor ceremonies in gardens tend not to need as much decor. My reception venue had very beautiful chandeliers and therefore I didn't really have decor either. But I also agree with PP in choosing colors helps

Kristina, maybe making a list of what you both like then seeing what would fit for you guys as a couple and incorporating that? It says you are getting married in October, did you want to make it spooky or anything like that or would you want it to be elegant and formal? Pinterest is going to be a really good place to find ideas that may help. Then you can show him what you like and see if he has anything to add or say about it. When you Invision your wedding day what words would describe it? Do you see it in a barn type place or in a modern building with a ballroom? Hopefully some of that will help.

I used the knot to find a few venues that me and my fiancé are going to look at. Looking through the photo galleries of locations that were affordable helped us narrow down what we liked and didn’t like. Them based off the venue we settled on a “theme”

Dallas area has a lot of barn looking venues, which is a bit to country for me but we found some modern barn looking spaces and my mind instantly thought of the greenery we could add. We also know our wedding colours will be a dark green and Navy so that helped.

Weddings don't need to be themed, either. Yes, as other posters have said; talk it out, look at Pinterest. Favorite meals, favorite things you do together, favorite places. And talk about indoor and/or outdoor, location, and type of vibes/formality (traditional to casual— church and/or ballroom, backyard BBQ with dodgeball and smores bonfire). Also budget and size of guestlist will also help inform location, chicken or egg situation though.

We had our adults only boozy brunch wedding dance party wedding at a restaurant in my husband's hometown. It's a beautiful open space that's rustic, bright natural light, industrial in an old warehouse and already had a lot of nice decor– lighting fixtures, interior design, chalkboard mural, farm tables, mismatching chairs. So all we had were a couple of signs, guestbook, cardbox, and florals. We had the whole wedding in one space inside since we were not willing to have backup plans due to inclement weather.

If you find a place that is a good base and you don't have to do much to make it feel welcoming, that definitely helps.

My SO deff didn’t put thought into the decor of other weddings lol. I would just start going through Pinterest, picking things you like and seeing what he thinks. From there we got an idea of what he liked and didn’t like!

I looked at the venues on here and then decided what colors I liked and what I didn't like. Then I started thinking of details, like if we're by the ocean is it tacky to use nautical decor? Ect.

I'd echo the pintrest idea, but a lot of photos on there are of styled shoots or weddings with no budget. A more realistic approach that helped me was looking at the instagram pages and tagged location of the venues we were interested in. There were more "real-life" decorations on there for inspo that I could see in our spaces.

I would do a favorite flower and colors you like or think BM will look good in.

Look up venues and local photographers on Instagram and Facebook. Many post pro photos of other weddings, so that’ll give you an idea of the potential of different venues. Some of the photographers in our area even do blog posts of a number of the weddings they shoot, so you can get a lot of ideas from that and even have the names of vendors who helped pull it off right there tagged in the blog or IG post. We also went to Barnes & Nobel and paged through some of the wedding magazines to take a few home that has ideas and styles that we were drawn to as inspiration.

I would first decide what type of venue you want first then look at coordinating decor from there. We are not adding much to the decor of ours because it is beautiful as is. We are really only adding a small lantern to the centerpieces. You may not even need to add decor if you find a place that includes it.

You may need to handle more of the decor because most men can’t decide or don’t care. Maybe he would like some offbeat venues instead of the ballroom or barn venue? How do you feel about: winery, brewery, rooftop restaurant, auto or space museum, haunted hotel?

Thank y’all for all your suggestions! I’ve been showing him Pinterest but he has a REALLY hard time imagining things any different than how they are presented to him (think like ‘converting’ a map to real life, it’s ridiculously hard for him to do that) so Pinterest only gets us so far but looking at the venues’ Instagrams has already helped a TON. We know we want an outside ceremony and a reception that can be inside and outside so that has helped us narrow things down a lot. Add in that we live in New Orleans and we have to factor weather even in October limits us even further. I’m hoping we can go to Barnes and Noble this weekend and look through some magazines which may help him some more. Thank y’all again!

I would suggest thinking about décor after your choose a space and date. To get some ideas, I perused around Michaels to see what I liked and to price out items.

Pinterest! My fiancé has his own Pinterest that I send him. What’s he like? Rustic, modern, ect.

View Quoted Comment He refuses to get a Pinterest account (he doesn’t have Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram either so he definitely isn’t getting a Pinterest) so I have to show him everything in person or screenshot and send to him. I’d say he likes more modern elegant stuff, but throw in some candles and he’s a sucker.

I would compile together a Pinterest board of some ways that you see that day going and then just showing him what you came up with! Another idea is to take those little wedding style quizzes. If there is a local bridal show go to it because you'll meet vendors, see venues, and everything in between! Hope this helps! Happy planning!

View Quoted Comment Thank you!!! Have you gone with your significant other to a bridal show? If so did they get overwhelmed? Do you have any tips for that? Thank you!!! 😊

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Yes! We went shortly after getting engaged. It's a little overwhelming no matter who you are but I just prepared him to understand there will be lots of stuff going on. When we walked down one of the aisles a string quartet was playing and they were playing "here comes the bride" he started crying and said "Out of everything we've seen here this is the one thing we must have", I surprised him and booked a string duo because the whole quartet was real pricey but he was so happy! I would just let him know there's free cake and he should be fine!