How do I get the message through someone's skull, that I don't want to hug him?! My FBIL always tries to hug me when I see him and I always take a step back and shake his hand. I dislike him because we've had several conflicts in the past where he's gossiped about me. I also do a lot for his daughter (i.e. buy her clothes, take her to the bowling alley, zoo, aquarium, vacations) and he has NEVER thanked me, not once. Now my FMIL is telling me that I'm causing issues bc I refuse to hug her son.... This is really confusing because I don't hug any of them except for my fiancé's 6yo niece.
Do you all think it's rude to not wamt to hug soomeone?