Dedicated June 2021

No gifts

Krissey, on March 28, 2020 at 6:47 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6
We are having a destination wedding summer 2021. It is a small wedding 30ish people and we feel strongly that if everyone is flying down for our wedding and staying at the hotel to celebrate US then they should not feel obligated to also get us a gift. To us, the gift is that they came. Is there some special wording we should put on the invitation to indicate this, without sounding tacky?


Latest activity by Dana, on March 30, 2020 at 3:23 PM
  • Jameelah
    Dedicated July 2021
    Jameelah ·
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    Some people will want to get you a gift anyway. I wouldn’t decide for them. Just don’t include a registry, or say something like you being there is the greatest gift of all, so we decided not to have a registry.
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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I would just leave anything about gift giving off the invite. Like pp said people might want to give it regardless
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  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I wouldn’t mention gifts at all. Guests are never obligated to give gifts, there’s no reason to tell them.
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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy ·
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    I agree with the others. Just leave it off. When people ask if you are registered , just tell them you don’t want anything but for them to come. We did that and some people still gave us money and gift cards even though we didn’t want anything.
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    We had a DW and in email communication about accommodation options (to fit a range of budgets), we mentioned something like “No gifts please. Your presence is our present!”
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  • Dana
    Dedicated May 2020
    Dana ·
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    We didn't put anything on the invitation itself, but we did put on the details card “No gifts please. Your presence is our present!” like PP have suggested

    I know a lot of etiquette guides say anything related to gift registries should go onto wedding websites. We were doing a smaller scale wedding, and didn't have a wedding website. I figured before wedding websites became a thing gift registries were probably on the details card

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