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Jennifer
Dedicated December 2021

No gifts please?

Jennifer, on August 26, 2020 at 1:36 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 7

So we were scheduled to get married 10/17 in Ocean, NJ. But our venue can't do outdoors and indoors is not a thing in Jersey right now (not with 150 people anyway). So we've postponed until December 4th, 2021. BUT! We're still getting married on our date and at our awesome venue. It's ceremony only, no food, and small capacity. We've invited our bridal party and parents. Although I've texted everyone the plan, I am going to send out an evite so everyone has it in "writing". I would assume gifts can just wait til the actual big wedding celebration. Seems to make more sense. But should I put that on the evite too? Like "no gifts please, you're presence is all we want". Or just let people make the decision themselves? I may be overthinking something that's not super important lol but now it's in my head! Thanks ya'll!

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Latest activity by Judith, on August 27, 2020 at 4:01 AM
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Honestly people are going to want to give you something anyway so I’d just leave it out
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    Master October 2022
    Jana ·
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    People will bring you gifts as they choose. It's never polite to mention them.
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  • MrsD
    Legend July 2019
    MrsD ·
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    I'd just let people bring gifts whenever they want (if they choose to at all).

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  • Bo Miller
    Expert December 2020
    Bo Miller ·
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    I agree with what the PP have said. I wouldn't mention it at all.

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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    My fiancé and I are doing the same thing. We aren’t expecting any gifts however we’re sure certain people won’t take no for an answer so we just left it out.
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  • VIP August 2020
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    Some people will give you gifts this year (even if they're not invited to the ceremony) and some will wait until it's time for the celebration next year, but you shouldn't try dictate when people buy things for you. It's okay to tell people that you don't want gifts, but what you actually mean is that you want them to give you gifts next year instead of this year. Trying to explain that will make you seem ungrateful, so it's best not to say anything.

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    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    Do not mention it. Let people do what they feel like doing. It is a gift.
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