No garter toss

Dancing and good food is really all you need!

If FH really wants the garter toss, have you considered having another and just having him toss the second one you aren't wearing? That way he won't have to go up your dress in front of friends and family... I would skip the shoe game. It could break up the flow of everything.

You can just skip them.

I'd also avoid too many games or add on things. I think drinking and dancing is all that's needed for a fun memorable reception.

Maybe an hour or so before the end you can host a late night snack. We did donut holes and soft pretzels

Thanks, FH doesn't like the whole garter toss thing either he'd be fine with doing no games. And that might end up being the better choice.

FW and I decided that we won't be doing either of the tosses, we're just going to mingle, drink and dance instead!

View Quoted Comment I'm sorry! I misread your post at first and thought that he did want one, but going back I realize I didn't read it close enough.

Definitely just skip it in that case!

We aren't doing either of these traditions either! Instead, we plan on drinking and dancing the night away with our family and friends

I’m conservative in a way, so we’re also not doing that garter thing. My cousin did at her wedding, I caught the bouquet and still mortified that the guy put the garter on me in front of my family. Ugh lol

I don’t have a bouquet, so no toss. We have a live bongo player, DJ, open bar, and a lil flash mob dance where all the guests can dance with us (I’m a dancer teacher).

Good DJ food drinks are all you need!

We didn't do either, and didn't replace it with other games or activities.

It's been years since I've seen a bouquet toss and even more years since I've seen a garter toss. Skip them and don't worry about trying to replace them with something else. FWIW my daughter and sil are pretty young and one of the first to get married amongst their friends and I didn't hear anyone asking about the tosses

I don’t want my FH to go in my dress to get the garter. I think that’s awkard! So we compromised and I am just going to give him the garter to throw. Maybe that would be something you could do if you still wanted to have this.

We are definitely not doing a garter toss...I'm with you, it sounds like it would make me uncomfortable. I will be doing the flower toss though. But we are going to play the shoe game, most likely, to replace the garter toss.

We are skipping both. The woman that are single at my reception are either, under the age of 13 or over the age of 40- with two girls my age. I decided I didn't want to embarrass any other those older group of girls, so I decided against it.

As for garter toss- we didn't have to talk about it. We both knew it was not us, and decided just knew we wouldn't be doing it.

I'm not doing a garter or bouquet toss either, it just seems like a way to single out the single people. I'm not planning any games, except maybe some lawn games. Most people should have a good time drinking, dancing and chatting, they won't need games.

I’m not doing either and not replacing them with anything.

You can toss a candy bouquet! That's what I'm doing! There will be alot of kids at my wedding so now everyone can be involved! And even if there aren't kids, I mean who the hell doesn't like candy?! haha and traditional bouquet tosses are always the most awkward things, especially for those girls in dating relationships. If you go out there to catch it, you are blatantly telling your date you want to marry them, if you don't go you are blatantly saying the opposite. And then legit singles get to be called out for it. what fun... It's a messed up situation to pit anyone in...but for mine we are doing a candy bouquet toss to the song sugar sugar by the archies and inviting everyone, regardless of age and gender to catch it.

I've been to a lot of weddings the passed couple years (over 10), and only one of them did a bouquet/garter toss. I'm not going to do it or replace it with anything... Just dance the night away and have fun.

There is no reason to do a tradition that makes you uncomfortable. You don't need to do anything to make up for it.

I definitely want to do both tosses! I like watching the women run for the bouquet and the men run from the garter lol I definitely understand you not feeling comfortable though. I don’t either as going up my dress is definitely not something that should be public.

Im probably going to move the garter around my calf or something (haven’t quite figured it out yet)!

We're not doing either of them either as I think they are both silly. What we are going to do tho is do the anniversary dance and then I'll give the bouquet to the couple that has been married the longest. I feel it will be more appreciated and an opportunity for a cute photo.

View Quoted Comment We're skipping both tosses and doing the anniversary dance as well. My FH quickly nixed the garter toss, and I don't care to toss my bouquet (also not a lot of single guests in attendance).