I never really had friends growing up, I don't know why but for some reason making friends has always been hard for me. Despite never having friends I always figured I would have friends by the time I get married, now I've been engaged 2 months and I moved to a new state a month ago with my fiancé and I'm starting to realize that it is unlikely I will make any friends in time to have bridesmaids or a MOH or a bridal shower or bachelorette party or any of it. My FH has lots of friends he plans to include/invite to the wedding, most of them he has been able to stay connected with over the years because of online gaming. Where as when a friend of mine moves away we typically drift apart. He feels guilty that our guest list will be made up primarily of his family and friends. I have family but there is so much family drama going on right now that I hesitate to invite anyone but my immediate family. I don't want him to give up his best man and groomsmen just because I don't have anyone to ask but I also feel immensely lonely, I want to have people I can celebrate with, people that will throw me a shower or a bachelorette party, someone to stand up with me and get ready with me the morning of, but more than likely I wont have anyone. The loneliness makes me want to chuck the whole wedding, but I've missed out on a lot of life's special moments and I regret missing them all, I don't want to give up my wedding too. A girl at work is planning her wedding too and hearing her talk about all the friends she has as bridesmaids and how her guest list is 3x the length of mine makes me just want to cry. I know the wedding is about me and my FH and it doesn't matter who else is there, but with him being so disinterested in the planning and everything it would really be nice to have someone else to help me and celebrate with me.
I guess I really just needed to vent a little, I don't really have a question but I needed to get it all off my chest, it's really hard acting like I don't mind not having any friends at the wedding all the time, but I just don't want all the pity from my fiancé and family.