No Friends or Family - No Wedding?

You could have an intimate wedding if you're comfortable with just having your FH's family attend, if you're close enough with them to call them your family as well. Another option would be to elope with just you two present and potentially have a celebration of marriage for his family?

You can always elope! He could pick two people to be your witnesses.

If that's not an option, maybe just a small courthouse wedding and low-key meal at a restaurant afterwards.

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Exactly what I was going to say.

You could always do a destination wedding. That way you still have the small wedding, but a step above just eloping. There's a lot of deals of vacations if you have your wedding there.

If you choose to do a wedding, no family on your side isn't the end of the world. Just don't have people pick a side at the ceremony, and most people won't even notice. I'm assuming your fiance's friends are your friends too, anyway.

You definitely don't need to have all the bells and whistles. I will just add that I think it is important that you have a support system other than your FH. Do you have anyone to talk to besides FH? Even if they aren't local? I know it can be hard to put yourself out there but have you tried going to any community events or activities to make some friends close by?

My only two cents is don't discount extended family or far away friends from coming until you actually ask and send invites. I had relates come from out of the country that I didn't expect to come at all and friends from across the country that surprised me. I'm sure your sister would like to celebrate with you.

Or if you have friends and family in a different location (your hometown perhaps?) that can't come to the wedding have the wedding there, or have a party after the wedding there for them.

Destination wedding can also work if people have to travel anyways they can like to go to a fun place!

I’m sorry for the losses you e experienced. The whole point is two becoming one—perhaps keep it small (keep the attention down) but have his family and friends. I think it’s the reason my brother eloped...and we would have loved to share in their day. My FH also didn’t want a big wedding. So we compromised—intimate destination ceremony and reception with immediate family and close friends...and a giant more casual celebration of marriage party with my extended family after.

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I agree with this. Eloping is perfectly fine and could be lovely. But on a separate note, try spending more time with your FH's family, and maybe join some sort of group to meet people in. I'm sure you would be a great addition!

I am sorry to hear about your losses. I think you and your FH should spend time talking about this. If it were up to me and my FH we would just get married at the courthouse and I would be able to get the spring wedding that I wanted (or Vegas, which ever still has a date open this year). We are both introverts and don't like being the center of attention.

Your marriage should be what you are comfortable with.

Good luck with everything!