No FOB Speech

Only my MOH and BM are giving speeches. There is no set list of people that have to speak.

My dad didn't say anything at my sister's wedding last year - no one thought it was weird!

People aren't going to think anything except GEEZ how many speeches???

Don't force your dad or anyone to speak. If he can muster it, ask him to simply say "A toast to the bride and groom" while raising his glass to you.

We are only having our BM and MOH do a speech

I've never been to a wedding where I have seen a FOB speech personally. I think you are fine.

I know my FFIL is going to want to talk, and probably A LOT, so that was my main concern. But I'm glad it sounds like people will just be glad the speeches are over, haha.

I never talked to my dad about it but he has a speech impediment and is self conscious about so I highly doubt he will make a speech. We limited the speeches to the MOH and BM.

I've done lots of weddings with only the BM and the MOH do a speech.

Most people are fine with the least speaking possible.

I think it's actually ore common to have the parents thank the guests at the RD.

Ooo thank you @Celia. Maybe I can contain FFIL at the RD instead...

Out of the 10+ weddings I've been to, only 2 of them had a FOB speech. I wouldn't worry / stress about it.

I don't like the speech aspect at all.

Less speeches are better. We had FIL give a blessing before dinner, then had BM and MOH give a speech. My mom also said something short. That alone was a lot, although we did ask everyone who gave a "speech" to limit it to a minute and a half, and we split them up throughout dinner, which made it quick. Too much talking just postpones the party

Also, if your dad isn't comfortable just don't do it. DH and his mom didn't do a mother/son dance because she wasn't comfortable with the attention. None of that stuff is necessary!

Last wedding I went to only the maid of honor and two groomsmen have speeches. We aren't doing any.

I don't think it would be a big deal if your dad didn't give a speech. If public speaking isn't his thing, he shouldn't have to do it. Anyone who knows your dad probably knows this about him, anyway, and isn't going to think twice about it when the speeches are done and your dad didn't give one.

Right now only the BM is going to give a speech. My MOH has told me she's afraid to speak publicly, so I'm not forcing her. And if the fathers want to give a speech, I'm going to ask them to do it at the RH. We feel like the less speeches the better so that they party can start sooner!

Not weird at all. If he doesn't want to, he doesn't need to.

I've never been to a wedding where FOB gave a speech.

What you're asking right now is if you should force your father to give a speech he doesn't want to. Absolutely not, no matter the reason. If the guests want to gossip, let them gossip.

Thanks for the all the helpful advice. I'm glad it won't be weird.

I get so uncomfortable during speeches that I asked my MOH to skip it. Only the BM will do a speech at reception.

Just be prepared for him to *possibly* change his mind. We gave FMIL the option to speak since H is not in contact with his dad and three times, she refused. Then comes wedding day and she takes the mic from the dj to give an impromptu speech. I was pissed because it was the second impromptu speech and we gave her the choice THREE times yet she didn't want to... it made the moment look very bad and unorganized, plus she was pretty quiet and incoherent because she literally decided in that moment to say something.

Sorry, I'm a little salty still.