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You're definitely not alone!! I have to finance the while thing myself and most of the time I just want to give in and elope haha. But Congratulations on making it!!!

View Quoted Comment I definitely thought about it! I’ve made it too far to quit. Thank you so much, and best wishes to you ❤️❤️❤️ You got this!

We are paying for everything ourselves too.
We scheduled a year out, so that we can save as we go, so that we stay on budget.

Try not to compare yourselves to others, even though its difficult.
You should be proud of yourself and your accomplishment of paying for your wedding.

Congrats! I have no doubt , you will get some 💰 as a 🎁
Try not to worry and enjoy this time before your big day!
It will all work out❤

My FH and I are paying for everything ourselves so you are not alone. We actually preferred this since it meant we could do what we wanted without feeling indebted to family or have to listen to their thoughts as we made decisions along the way. Just focus on what an amazing day your wedding will be and try not to stress. I kinda giggled at the last part since stress is inevitable when it comes to planning a wedding.

Definitely not alone... I think that “tradition” of parents paying for the wedding is out... I’m sure some still do it but obviously not everyone.. we are paying for everything ourselves and I wouldn’t expect our parents to help us out.. they are barely making it...

We r paying for our wedding ourselves and r not in the least bit jealous of those who r not. We wouldn't have it any other way. We r grown adults and we r financially stable so we need nothing from no one, not money or unwanted opinions. We have been planning for over a year and a half so everything would be paid for by wedding day. No debt and we did it our way!! We planned a wedding we could afford and spent major money on the things that meant the most to us. Now that we r 67 days out.....yea things r alittle tighter but we r totally on track.

No help for us, though my parents did offer a bit. But that cash would have come with more strings than I've got the patience to deal with. We're keeping it simple.

We’re paying for everything ourselves, too. We picked a date where the venue was cheaper and not a prime month and making payments to vendors over the course of a year.

We're paying for everything ourselves...no one has offered any help emotionally, much less financially. No one has offered any ideas, suggestions or really has asked questions. This process has been an eye opener and has saddened me in a lot of ways. But, it has definitely brought me and my fiance closer.

I personally don’t think it’s parents’ responsibility to pay for their children’s weddings unless they are demanding things a certain way. My father has offered, but I refused. My FH and I are paying for everything ourselves. We just were very realistic with our budget and we refused to go into debt.

Were paying for everything ourselves, haven’t gotten a dime from anyone, nor an offer of any help. In fact we’ve helped pay for some expenses for my mom & dad & (young) bro because they are all on 1 income & just can’t afford it. We paid for my moms makeup & trial & hair & trial, my brothers & dads tuxedos. And, we are just 2 regular working joes with a baby trying to make it like everyone else, we don’t have money. But we also don’t feel sad or sorry for ourselves that no ones helping with our wedding, it’s our choice to get married. We’re older adults- 35 & 42 & don’t need mommy & daddy to foot the bill for us. And-This is the first ‘real’ , non courthouse wedding in either of our immediate families so were very proud to have been able to do it all on our own. We started with a $5k budget, ha! And it’s now become a $20k wedding with 120 guests when all is said & done. But, we wheeled & dealed, and worked a lot of overtime & made payments, payed all cash-no credit yet, as we went thru the year we were engaged & booking all the vendors & now only have $3k remaining of the whole 20k to pay before the wedding. And, we havnt even had to eat ramen all year lol
also, w e have no wedding registry. We will have no bridal party, no groomsmen, no showers, etc. We don’t need or want or expect gifts or parties or any expenses from anyone just because WE chose to get married. All we want is to be married & for our loved ones to just come & enjoy celebrating our love with us. I think it’s all about your attitude and how you see the situation.

Oh my gosh this^^ Yes I get so jealous when everyone is like oh my parents or my Fh’s parents are paying for this and this and this.. I mean I’m happy for them, but still envious lol! I’m paying for everything basically by myself, even working a second job to cover expenses since we already live basically paycheck to paycheck. But it will all be worth it in the end, hopefully (; and yes I’m also kind of hoping to get some cash as gifts, as bad as that sounds 🙈🙈 lol

We were in the same boat. We are 33 years old with 4 kids so we knew this wedding was going to be on us solely. We are now 17 days away, and last week my pops actually sent me a large amount of money. Totally unexpected and we were completely prepared to do it all ourselves so it was a nice surprise! Hopefully you get mostly cards 😉. Most of my coworkers have already asked if I would mind them just bringing money instead of a gift and my answer was "i absolutely do not mind!" Lol

View Quoted Comment Yessss! Like, I feel like this post is coming off as “I need mommy and daddy’s help” and it’s not that. It’s just the fact that if I DID need help, I would have no one to ask for it. I actually feel so great about doing everything myself, even though the process has been quite lonely and stressful. I know my day is going to be great regardless of how small and intimate my wedding is! Yours will be too! 😘

FH’s sister is getting married this year (as well as graduating with her Masters) so his parents are paying for her wedding and not helping with our expenses. She’s 23 and we’re 32 so we aren’t upset at all about that. We handled the invites/addressing/postage for her wedding to help out a bit. We’re getting married next year and my parents not only aren’t helping they might not even show up. I’ve always had a rough relationship with my mom and my dad just sort of goes along with whatever “shuts her up”. 🙄 We decided on a two year engagement so we could save for the wedding we both want. Although, now that we’re actually starting to sign contracts I feel like I want to scale it back, a lot. Lol.

I’m not either but I started a GoFundMe even though my wedding is so far out. It helps to have people donate what they can to help.

The struggle is real

I’m not getting financial help sadly to say my mom is no longer with us and my dad barely making ends meet in all honestly i wouldn’t want anyone to help financially unless I really needed the help .:: so we good

View Quoted Comment Yes girl! I feel like people may have misconstrued your meaning a little bit. But yea we just don’t have anyone to turn to if we did need it.. I will agree with some about not having to worry about others input and options.. especially my mother’s 🙈😂 It will be a lot of work and stress but it will all be totally worth it in the end and I can’t wait! And you’re so close to the big day now, I can’t waot to see pictures 😍😍

Yeah not alone. My fiance and I are paying for our wedding on our own. To be completely honest though, I think his family should foot a chunk of the bill due to the fact that his side of the family is ginormous! His side consists of 100 and mine is 20. Like really? But whatever, it is what it is. But just like you, we're hoping for some cash as a gift to help with our honeymoon fund.