No family or friends on the bride side...

Perhaps consider inviting some people from work? Also I would send invites to your family regardless. They may want this chance to rebuild

After 9 years, his friends and family should feel like yours. At the ceremony, make sure guests are distributed on both sides of the aisle. At the reception, it won't matter -- his are yours, too!

Agreed with PP. His family and friends should be yours by now.

Our sides will be drastically uneven as well. I have a tiny family while his is huge. I invited some friends of mine but since I moved from my hometown a few years ago, the majority of my friends have young children and aren't up to making the trip.

Request your coordinator or ushers help fill in the sides evenly. I am also considering swapping the sides we stand on so guests don't necessarily know which side belongs to whom.

@Nancy T: oh they do feel like my own...I just wasn't sure if there was some etiquette I should consider when dividing the guests during the ceremony

I only have 5-10 people coming from my side of the family and FH has about 100 so we're not doing sides or anything, just letting everyone sit where they want to.

I have 30 extended family members coming, and only 2 of his could make it. We aren't sitting anyone on a particular side, and i doubt itll be a problem

I'm sorry the family you grew up knowing is not going to be there.

I chose those words carefully, because your family WILL be there. It's the people who love you, and support you - in this case, it sounds like your family is growing by marrying FH!

There's no etiquette here. Just have everyone sit where they want for the ceremony (no "sides") and it'll be fine!

Everybody has friends. Even if it's just a handful. And plus, weddings are about families coming together so embrace his as your own. To which I'm sure you have since you've been together so long.

Our sides will be very uneven too because I have a significantly larger immediate family. He's inviting more friends than I am but it doesn't make up for our differences in family sizes. We just aren't going to have sides at the ceremony, anyone can sit anywhere

It shouldn't be an issue but you could always display one of the cute signs from pintrest/etsy stating to "choose a seat not a side".

Katie that's a great idea!! Thank you!

Just do it, his family and friends hopefully love you the same. I'm sorry your family are basically assholes. I'm similar except i just have a very very small family so out of 50 people I have 12 people that are there "for me". Just enjoy your day, I hope things with your family work out but for now his family and friends are yours as well. Try to think like that

I know exactly what you going through. My family isn't to fond of my FH simply because they don't like him, so like you I'm afraid that my side might not show up but his side will be there. I put it like this invite them they either will come, send a gift or nothing but at least you know you did your part of extending that invite to them. Congratulations and good luck.

We went to a wedding and as soon as we walked in we saw how uneven the sides were, so we sat on the grooms side instead of the bride's. everyone pretty much filled in after that

We'll be uneven, too, so we're just telling people to sit wherever they want.

Mine will be uneven as well due to the fact I moved from Ohio to Nebraska 4 years ago. So majority of my family are in Ohio. We are just having a sign that says "Choose a seat not a side, Your loved by both the groom and bride".

We're doing an orthodox Jewish ceremony, so men sit on one side, women on the other. I'm so happy we don't have to deal with this

View Quoted Comment Not true not everyone has friends. My only friend is my FH. That always upsets me when people say that. Some of us. Have never had friends. I never had a bestfriend though i have tried. And it hurts. I never been able to make any. And cant figure out why. I also have no family other than my 2 sons. That will be my only family there. While my FH has a ton of family and friends