No Family, No Friends for the Wedding: What Should i Do?

Can you arrange for marriage counseling? You need to make sure you two will be on the same track in marriage. You would need to make sure your fiancé is not under his mother's control too.

For your general life, you may check into some clubs or hobbies where you can meet with others -- like a book club, sewing or quilting, art classes, religious group, pickleball or other groups. Maybe you can have a wedding planner work out the details for your wedding too.

This sounds like a FS issue, not a no- friend issue. I would hesitate to marry someone who didn't defend me to insensitive family. Or they may not be aware of how hurtful they are to you. Talk to your future spouse to set a more peaceful future because when you marry someone, you marry their family. And not everyone knows how and when to set boundaries with overbearing family members. If the family stays rude and you still want to marry this man, consider elopement. Your wedding should be on your terms.


I'm sorry for the loss of your Dad, and that your Mom could not attend. Don't worry about friends, that will come.

Have you considered eloping? That means you get married with just you, the officiant, and maybe a photographer. There would be no need for guests or friends and you could go to any nice location you want. Elopements are becoming more common since COVID. Maybe his family would complain about it, but they were rude to you, so you shouldn't feel like you have to throw a party just for them.

I'm questioning why you are marrying this man. It doesn't sound like you really know him all that well. You've only been together for a year, which is a relatively short time, and it sounds like you probably met him online and that part of your relationship was long distance. It also sounds like he has no problem letting his family bully you. You need a partner who is supportive and will stand up for you if someone makes you upset or uncomfortable. At this point, I would step back and re-evaluate things.

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Seconded. A marriage is a life defined by the two people who love each other. It requires supporting each other in the face of exterior adversities.

Please be certain your fiance is this person for you before marrying him.

Oh gosh I m so sorry you are going through this. I d tell your finance everything you said here and how it is making you feel. The marriage is what matters not the wedding. If he cannot support your feelings and come up with a compromise that works for the 2 of you than you are in for a tough road. Please make sure you are marrying someone who will support you and put you and your needs ahead of his mom's. Wishing you all the best.