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Yoomie
VIP October 2018

No Family At Wedding

Yoomie, on July 24, 2017 at 6:32 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 21

Without getting into it, almost all of my family (both parental sides plus my parents and sibling) may not be at my wedding with the exception of one brother. My FH has two large families (his biological parents were divorced and remarried) and is close with his mother's extended. FH is inviting 60% to my 1% family member invitations (however, I have lots of long-time friends and role model figures that will be invited). Has anyone else been through/is going through/has witnessed something similar? I am curious how it was for them/looked to the guests (how noticeable?).

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Latest activity by Elphaba, on July 24, 2017 at 9:33 PM
  • ambrok
    Master October 2017
    ambrok ·
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    100 guests n probably 45 will be my family, 10 FHs family n splitting friends. FHs extended family are 90% oot. FH invited aunts, uncles n cousins where I did not. I cannot change the size of my family or where they live. We are making sure FHs family has reserved seating, at the very least.

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  • KittyPrawn
    Master June 2017
    KittyPrawn ·
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    H invited his mom, dad, sister, and BIL in terms of family. I had 4 tables out of 6 dedicated to just family.

    He had a lot more friends than I did. And to him, they are his family.

    I don't think any guests noticed or cared.

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  • Mary C
    Super November 2018
    Mary C ·
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    For me other than my kids, I will only have friends there. My parents are gone and I do not get along with my sister. I am not close with most of my extended family. Needless to say my guest list is small. FH is an only child, however his mother is one of 8 so he has a large family to invite.

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  • J. Clo
    Master May 2018
    J. Clo ·
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    Guests will not notice

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  • Elizabeth
    Master December 2016
    Elizabeth ·
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    Of the 100 guests at my wedding, only 10 were my family members. My spouse had no family there at all. It takes more than blood to make one family.

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  • Cuervo
    Super January 2019
    Cuervo ·
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    I will only be having my 3 family members attending. The rest of my guests will be very close friends, which are like family to me.

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  • PerfectlyPolin
    VIP September 2017
    PerfectlyPolin ·
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    My FH has a very large family who will be attending and unfortunately I am not close with my family so I will probably have less than a dozen family members there. Some times it bums me out but I don't think it's really that big of a deal.

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  • Kimberly
    VIP March 2018
    Kimberly ·
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    We are inviting 46 members of my family and only 10 of his. I have a much larger family. That's just the way things work sometimes

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  • Dolores Umbridge
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    Dolores Umbridge ·
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    Out of the 177 we had I think like 50 were husbands. Didn't even notice day of.

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  • Jennifer VR
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    Jennifer VR ·
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    Of the weddings I have been to, I have never noticed or cared how many of the guests were family, and to whose side they belonged. I only care that I am having a great time Smiley smile

    At my wedding, of our 63 guests, about 20 were my family. DH invited 2 family members. No one said anything to me or DH about it. My family knows the issues we have with his family, and were very welcoming to his 2 family members who were in attendance. A few of DH's friends knew the family issues. None of my friends knew the issues, and didn't noticed anything amiss.

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  • Swaney 2022
    Dedicated December 2022
    Swaney 2022 ·
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    Out of 80 guests, 10 will be my family (not including my 3 girls who are 12,8, & 6) and the rest are all FH's family & friends (I have zero friends, period). I doubt anyone is going to care or even bother to realize.

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  • TheeOne2Love
    VIP December 2017
    TheeOne2Love ·
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    FH is closer to his family than I but I have more friends. So its a mix. It's fine No one will notice but you.

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  • Jo
    WeddingWire Administrator May 2015
    Jo ·
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    Just have ushers seat guests on either side for the ceremony, or have one of those "choose a seat, not side" type of signs.

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  • Vanessa
    Expert May 2018
    Vanessa ·
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    A friend of mine just had a wedding like this where I knew the bride had a huge family but only 1 sister showed up. I did find it strange when her dad wasn't giving her away. Nobody will say anything though.

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  • Yoomie
    VIP October 2018
    Yoomie ·
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    Thank you for your comments. Makes me feel better.

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  • LanaKane
    Super November 2017
    LanaKane ·
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    I may be in the same situation. Most of my family live in other countries so they may not be able to travel while his family members are all in the US. It bothered me a lot at first but what can you do.

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  • chelsey
    Super March 2018
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    My family is much bigger than FHs but I don't think it matters. You oh invite who you want to be there the most and go with it. As long as both of you have a good amount you both know them all is well. I would be more upset if I literally only knew five people at my own wedding but uneven family isn't bad.

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  • Rebecca
    Super October 2017
    Rebecca ·
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    Yep. FHs family is really big and local, mine is small and lives clear across the country. My parents and one set relatives are coming. No one else. His family has 48 CONFIRMED coming. I can say it really does hurt that my family can't come and that so many of his will be there.

    It is just kind of how it goes. I guess more of my friends can come?? They are my family. Smiley smile

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  • Byrne Baby Byrne
    Devoted April 2018
    Byrne Baby Byrne ·
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    I have 5 family invites and FH has 15. Rest is friends.

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  • Wanda
    Super February 2018
    Wanda ·
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    I will have only my brother there, and "perhaps" my youngest son and his family. The rest will be his family (who already treat me like family!) and a few very close friends.

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