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Just Said Yes April 2021

No engagement ring?

Kimberly, on November 11, 2020 at 9:56 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7

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Hi everyone!
So this is a long one and I’m not really sure how to start.. Jayson and I began dating in July 2018, we got engaged in March 2019 (he used my grandmothers ring because he hadn’t paid off mine yet), we ended up getting secretly married in January this year, with our original wedding date being October but with COVID we’ve moved it to next may. So here’s the thing... even though in a few months it’ll be two years since we got engaged and in January we will already have been married for a year.. I still don’t have my actual engagement ring that we picked out together two years ago now. He says he wants to do a re-proposal but it seems that he isn’t in any rush to do it.
So I am just wanting some reassurance..Has anyone else been experiencing the same thing? Is this weird? Is there anything I should say to him?I know our marriage, engagement, and love is not based on a diamond ring but I feel sad sometimes that we’re now married and act like a married couple but I still don’t have my ring that we picked out together.

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Latest activity by Veronica, on November 11, 2020 at 10:52 AM

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Mrs. Spring · on November 11, 2020 at 10:10 AM
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I dont think it's weird. Engagement rings eere created to make money. It just seems odd tgat he's not being more receptive to you communication wise about the re proposal
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Yasmine · on November 11, 2020 at 10:20 AM
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I do think that it's kind've weird. I would bring the situation up to him and mention the ring. Obviously the marriage is about love but who doesn't want a ring? Lol
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Katie · on November 11, 2020 at 10:21 AM
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I know you want your ring that you guys picked out, however like you said a marriage/relationship isn't about the diamond. If you aren't wearing a ring right now and that upsets you buy some cheap rings off Amazon or get a ring from pandora and wear that until he gives you the one you originally had. It's just jewelry and it doesn't and shouldn't define your relationship. Plus cut him some slack engagement ring can be ridiculously expensive, maybe he's struggling to pay it off.
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Tiger Bride · on November 11, 2020 at 10:22 AM
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"Hey, I'd like to wear the ring that we picked out together. Given that we're already married, I don't think a second proposal is necessary and I would rather just wear it now."
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Hannah · on November 11, 2020 at 10:43 AM
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This. Engagement rings aren't required ever for an engagement, but since you already bought it and I'm assuming he has it, it makes little sense to me why it's just sitting in a box collecting dust somewhere. I would just be upfront, similar to what Tiger Bride said. A second proposal really isn't necessary. My husband and I decided to get engaged and there was no ring. He got one for me later and gave it to me, but it wasn't a whole proposal or anything. He surprised me with it 1 day at home after dinner, but there wasn't like an elaborate plan or anything. He gave it to me the day he picked it up.
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Judith · on November 11, 2020 at 10:52 AM
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Engagement rings are not a necessary thing, they are an optional gift from the groom. If he sees other things as a priority now, his choice. Maybe he will give you some special jewelry on some future occasion.
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Veronica · on November 11, 2020 at 10:52 AM
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Not sure why you need any type of reassurance since you are literally married. While it is nice to have ring, it isn't necessary. I'm more concerned about the fact that you are hided it from everyone that you are already married. If/when that comes out, it could seriously upset your family and friends that you lied to them for over a year.
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