No Engagement Ring Advice

Tell people you don't like jewelry. If you are worried about looking it but would like one why not just get an inexpensive ring from the store? But if you just don't like wearing them then don't. Tell your mom instead of the ring the money is going to a gift you would love

If you aren't into jewelry ... would u happen to be into tattoos? You can always just get some kind of symbol or something as simple as a line on your ring finger to symbolize the marriage

I second @Amandaw's post. I'm not having an e-ring either, I much rather that money to go to something we can both enjoy, right now is going towards 2 different tours we'll take on our honeymoon, and yes, I'm telling this to anyone who'll ask why I'm not wearing an e-ring... although no-one has asked yet and we've been engaged since November, so I guess my close family and friends DO know me

You don't have to have a ring to prove you are serious. Just start planning and that will prove you are. But if you do want a ring there are plenty of inexpensive, nice looking rings besides typical erings. Get something you like and if it bothers your hand put it on a necklace

If you don't want one, don't get one. Engagements are not centered around the ring. I didn't have one at first and now we have hebrew his/hers bands.

A friend of mine skipped the e-ring. I have one, but our religion values simplicity and for a lot of people, that means no or very simple jewelery. So I actually know a lot of folks without them, but have really only talked in detail about it with the one friend. AFAIK, no one has ever questioned her relationship or doubted that they were actually going to get married (which they are, next week). I also know some ladies outside my religion who don't wear their e-ring or wedding band.

Thanks everyone for the helpful suggestions! I'm so glad I'm not the only one without a ring. And @Cora we're actually getting our wedding bands tattooed because I don't like rings&FH is in construction so he can't wear a ring.

Coworker doesn't wear one n is very much married! lol

I have heard of the tattoo option before, too.

My cousin skipped it and she just has a simple gold band as her wedding ring.

I skipped an e-ring for different reasons ... but Granny especially had this whole "the ring makes it official mentality". In fact, the first thing people ask you when you get engaged is "lets see the ring" and it is super annoying to explain a million times why you don't have one.

I actually did use 2 - 3 different placeholder rings during my engagement, because my reasons for skipping it were different to yours.

Nothing wrong with skipping it at all - it's more just the annoyance of everyone else's expectations that is the problem.

Honestly, having a ring isn't the most important thing. What's important is that you found someone you love and loves you and you're both happy together. If you honestly don't want one, tell your mom how you feel about it and then make her watch "Adam Ruins Everything: Diamonds" haha!

You can do a simple band (gold, silver or Platinum). It can double as your wedding ring

I only remember to wear my ring 50% of the time, because i never wore any rings prior to this. I am looking forward to wearing just my very slim wedding band, TBH. I get how you feel, and I am sure there are plenty of people who feel like this too.

Hubby and I have been together for ten years. He didn't propose and we didn't purchase an engagement ring. We just decided to get married and picked the next available courthouse date.

I have not an ounce of regret for not getting an ering. We're putting all the money we saved (ring, dress, wedding, etc.) into a rainy day fund. God forbid if something happens--job loss, illness, family emergency--we'd be glad to have a safety net to dip into.

I don't have traditional ering, I have a band that I'm wearing now but it will also be my wedding band (my only band). For the wedding I will take it off for FH to put on my hand at the ceremony.

I am also not a big jewelry person and FH and I would both be fine with the other not wearing their ring all the time if they don't want to.

You don't need the ring if you don't want it. No big deal!