No Children

I would put it on your FAQs on your wedding website, then alert close family & bridal party so they can answer if anyone asks them. On the invite, specify "Mr. & Mrs. Smith" vs. "Smith Family". On the RSVP card, put "we have reserved __ seats for your party" and fill it out with the number of adults you are inviting before sending invites out.

We're having an adult only wedding too. Our invites were address specifically to the people invited and we listed "we have reserved ___ seats in your honor". We also included it on our FAQ page on our wedding website.

I would say adults only wedding and receiption. I agree with what Amber above says but I have noticed brides on this site that people will still bring their kids because maybe those people think the kid can sit on their lap. I feel when it comes to events you need to be straight forward. I would put it on the RSVP or invitation in case the people do not check the FAQ's: I usually don't lol. I do not think it is rude to say your are invited to attend an adults only or 18+... or something to that effect. My friend got married and had adults only and at our age many of her friends (including bridal party) had kids and had to find someone to watch them. Unfortunately, not all events will be kid friendly.

How do you have it written in your FAQs?

Agreed, we definitely want to make sure everyone gets the memo. We love all our friend's and family's kiddos, but we are struggling to even pare the adult only list down to the venue's limit 150.

That is hard. Sadly some venues charge the same price even for kids. I am not a parent so maybe I am wrong as different people get offended by different things but I feel saying adults only is nice than no kids allowed.

We included it on our FAQ page. The question says "Can I bring my children?" and the answer is "We love all of your children, but we have decided to make this an adults-only celebration. We hope you understand!" Then we included how many seats we have reserved for each person. I included what our reply card looked like below so it was clear.

I think that pp has a great way to say it. I saw that in this article I was reading:

Before telling our parents, we agreed that this needed to be a hard rule of 18 and up only, so no kids and no exceptions. If you make one exception for one kid then it does become personal and frankly, rude. So we did a blanket rule and added this note to our wedding website: “We kindly ask you to leave the kids at home so you can party with us.” I know, it was so bold. But, also direct, to avoid any miscommunications.

https://www.brides.com/story/no-kids-allowed-wedding-real-bride

That is perfect! Thank you

A: Our wedding is an adults only event. Thank you for understanding our wishes!

We had an adult only wedding and reception. On our website, we put "we love children, but we kindly ask that you help us keep this an adult only event".

Then, when we sent invitations, we addressed it specifically to who was invited so there was no question as to if their children were allowed. We had zero issues.