No children at wedding/flower girl?

Flower girl is okay, other children are not if your having a child free reception.

I would say the 3 yr old flower girl is fine, if any guests bicker about it then just say you made an exception for this one child because they are part of your wedding party.

Flower girl is fine, she is part of the wedding. We do not have one (all boys in both families) but for anyone that does have children we are using a suite at the hotel & we have a 2 babysitters my mom works with at her preschool come and watch all the cousin's kids. We are supplying pizza, movies & etc. This way parents aren't worrying about finding sitters (or a family member has to miss something to watch the kids) & can relax and enjoy the wedding.

Just don't have any "no children " lingo on anything invite related ...including your website. Yes , it is okay to not invite all the children , but have some. People will most likely be less offended if you don't put "adults only" or "no children please " all over your website , and then see a few under 16 year olds in attendance ...

I think it would be ok but.... she has siblings so I don't think it would be fair for her to be invited and not them.

The wedding party children will be the only children in attendance. That consists of 2 FG's and 2 RB's.

Absolutely. If they have a role in the wedding nobody should mind. Also, I would always make exceptions for babies (under 1 year) since most parents who breastfeed can't attend a wedding if they can't bring the infant.

It's always easier to invite in circles. So invite all your first cousins (regardless of age), but no second cousins. You don't HAVE to do it like this, but it generally cuts down on family drama. The biggest problem with the age cut off is that you really can't split up families. So if you invite two of the older siblings, it's kinda rude not to invite the younger one.

If you are just having a strict age cut off (that doesn't split up any families), it's still fine to have members of the bridal party and young babies in attendance. I'm only inviting immediate family's children, but anyone with a young baby is free to bring them.

I have been worried about the same thing, especially after the FH's brother threw a fit because he couldn't bring his children (after FH had talked to him about how we would be having a child free day). My FG is 8, and we are close friends with her parents, and her. My mum told me that if anyone brings it up just say "She is my flower girl." And if they keep hassling, to keep repeating myself until they drop it.

Just the flower girl is fine.

Thanks everyone! Yes we have been inviting in circles, we did all immediate family and first cousins. However, some of my first cousins are 30 where as some are 10. So unfortunately I did have to split up some children from families that we invited. For instance, i have invited my 21 year old cousin, though I did not invite his 12 year old sister. I also have 2 other first cousins who are 12 and about 14 which I did not invite. As I said, if I invite one, I feel like I have to invite all. these ones I am also not closer with. the 3 year old we see often, and it is my FH closest and only cousin that he has in town, and the FG may not be staying for the reception either.

As I mentioned as well, my aunt(second cousin - whose wedding I was a FG for) offered that her youngest girl could be a FG if i didn't have one already. Though she has 2 older siblings, still under 16 though. I would love to have her as a FG also, but would not be inviting the siblings. So i feel that I should just have the one 3 year old. I have no ring bearers no little boys in the family

We also have not put "no children" anywhere, we have just not put those specific names on the invitation. Some people have asked, and we have told them unfortunately we don't have the space