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Savvy June 2021

No bridesmaids?

Mariana, on January 23, 2021 at 1:08 AM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 0 26
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Do you think it would be weird not having bridemades?? I'm not from USA and practically nobody in my family can come to our wedding. I do have some girl friends here, and they'll come, i guess i can ask them... But I don't wanna have an "I choose you because you are my only option" feeling between us

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Latest activity by Mariana, on January 24, 2021 at 2:22 PM
  • Stacey
    Super May 2021
    Stacey
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    It鈥檚 not weird at all! It鈥檚 completely options and a personal choice. Plenty of couple opt not to have a wedding party. We are not having one and don鈥檛 feel like we are missing a thing. 馃檪
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  • Cyndy
    Rockstar May 2019
    Cyndy
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    Definitely ok to not have bridesmaids. And if you FH has groomsman that鈥檚 ok too.
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  • Tee
    Dedicated October 2021
    Tee
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    Not weird at all. I know several people who decided against bridesmaids/groomsmen. 鈽猴笍
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  • Paola
    Just Said Yes February 2022
    Paola
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    Honestly its what you feel. I鈥檓 also dealing with the same thing with my fianc茅. I wasn鈥檛 going to have bridesmaids for my wedding bc my fianc茅 only has 2 best friends and I have about 7 girlfriends but just thinking about it im just picking 4 close friends. Congratulations 馃帀
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring
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    No ma'am, not weird at all. I won't be having bridesmaids and my mother didn't have any bridesmaids
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  • whirlwind
    Dedicated March 2021
    whirlwind
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    Hi Mariana,

    I just wanted to tell you that I am in exactly the same situation. I am not from the US and it looks like nobody from my family or close friends will be able to come. So, I decided early on that I won't be having bridesmaids (we also don't really have that tradition where Iam from) and my FH is totally okay with no groomsmen either. I wanted to have flowergirls and already asked the family but that was before I realized how fancy they seem to be here. I'll walk down the aisle by myself.

    But I have two girl friends here who I will ask to take on bridesmaids tasks (holding my flowers, looking out for my train, being with me while I am getting ready). That was important to me and these two totally understand my situation and are okay with not being bridesmaids and are happy to help out. But we are also not that close that they would have expected to be bridesmaids. They are just happy to help and be there for me.

    Hope your planning goes well.
    When is your big day? Let me know if you want to connect, I feel pretty lonely at times navigating all the cultural differences and planning a wedding without family and close friends here.
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2021
    Katie
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    It doesn't have to feel like they are your only option, you can make it special.


    I am having 5 bridesmaids and yes I'm close to all the ladies and that's why I picked them but also I don't really have many friends besides the 5 of them. And what I did when I asked them was make a little spa basket for them and gave it to them when I asked them to be in the wedding. They all felt very special and some cried when I asked.
    But it's what you feel, it's your wedding. It's not weird to not have a bridal party at all. If you feel it might look a little weird you can make your ceremony look like this. I absolutely love this set up, it's so unique No bridesmaids? 1

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Not weird. We didn鈥檛 have a wedding party. No extra stress or expense for anyone else.
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  • Mariana
    Savvy June 2021
    Mariana
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    Thanks, I appreciate your opinion. We are gonna have ceremony and party, near to 60-70 guests. I'm gonna have made of honor and flower girls, just don't feel like I want to have bridesmaids
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  • Mariana
    Savvy June 2021
    Mariana
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    Thanks, I appreciate your opinion. We are gonna have ceremony and party, near to 60-70 guests. I'm gonna have made of honor and flower girls, just don't want to have bridesmaids
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  • Mariana
    Savvy June 2021
    Mariana
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    Hello!!! Where are you from? Is great to talk with antoher foreing bride 馃榿 sounds good to have some of my friends taking bridesmaids tasks, thank you for the idea! We just rescheduled our big day to jun 5th, in Memphis Tn. When is yours? Where? Nice to meet you
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  • Mariana
    Savvy June 2021
    Mariana
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    Yes, definetly the wedding is about how you feel 馃懓鈥嶁檧锔 Is you day. Thank you and good luck
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  • Nicole
    Devoted August 2022
    Nicole
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    It's totally OK to not have bridesmaids. I personally won't be having any. Honestly it's such a relief for guests to just show up and enjoy the day without any responsibility.
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  • Mariana
    Savvy June 2021
    Mariana
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    Sounds good to me Smiley smile Thanks!
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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride
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    Totally fine to have any kind of wedding party you wish. That sounds lovely.
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  • Mariana
    Savvy June 2021
    Mariana
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    Thank you!!!
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  • E
    Just Said Yes June 2022
    Emily
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    No it鈥檚 normal if you don鈥檛 want any bridesmaids you don鈥檛 need any bridesmaids! It鈥檚 yours and your soon to be husbands day nobody elses
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  • Suzann
    Dedicated October 2021
    Suzann
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    I don't think there is anything wrong with not having bridesmaids if that's what you choose.

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  • Savvy August 2021
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    Not weird at all! My fianc茅 and I decided on not having bridesmaids or groomsmen. We wanted it to be a special moment with just the two of us up there 鉂わ笍
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  • Megan
    Dedicated February 2023
    Megan
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    It鈥檚 YOUR wedding!! Whatever you think works best for you and your FH, sounds great!! It鈥檚 the one day where you get to do what鈥檚 best for YOU (within reason of course 馃槀) and if you want to have just the two of you guys up there I think that鈥檚 rather romantic!! Plus all of your girlfriends will get to enjoy the whole season of your engagement, rather than be planning the parties! Do you girl I think it sound great!!
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