Alma
Expert October 2020

No bridesmaids

Alma, on August 6, 2019 at 7:25 PM Posted in Planning 0 13
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I decided not to have a wedding party. I just don’t want the extra costs or from what I read on here, unnecessary drama lol. What are the pros and cons of not having a wedding party? Thanks Smiley smile

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Latest activity by Jeanie, on August 7, 2019 at 3:14 AM
  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra ·
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    Pros
    Way cheaper! Less mouths to feed for a rehearsal, no thank you gifts required
    Drama free

    Cons
    It could lessen the chance of a bridal shower/bachelorette parties of either of those are important. Though that's not to say other friends or family wont offer to throw those for you.
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  • Colleen
    Master September 2019
    Colleen ·
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    Another con is not having people who mean a lot to you stand with you. Not getting to take fun bridal party pictures. Not showing people a little more how much you care.
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  • Jennifer
    Super September 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I only have a MOH and he has his BM.

    Pros for us: less money spent on gifts and makeup and hair and God knows what else. No drama. No reliance on others.

    Pros for our loved ones not asked: no expenses, party planning, drama, time sucks, etc. (Honestly, it's rarely fun being in the wedding).

    Cons: eh... I don't think there are any besides maybe what PP mentioned. I'm not having any extra parties. The MOH wants a might out for me, so I'm just going to help her plan it a little since she's never been in a wedding before.
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  • Kelly
    Super October 2019
    Kelly ·
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    Pros:
    Cheaper; no bouquet cost, no thank you gifts & can be less drama.

    Cons:
    Not having your closest friends stand with you, on one of the most important days of your life.
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  • Yam
    VIP September 2019
    Yam ·
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    I don’t have a bridal party either, our guest list is small so literally everyone is very close to us. It would look silly having half the guests standing up with us.
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  • Kelly
    Champion October 2018
    Kelly ·
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    I had ten! I had zero drama but it did get expensive.
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  • Virginia
    Super June 2021
    Virginia ·
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    I also decided to not have a bridal party. With that being said, I also realized I do need some help that day (getting me into my dress, doing my bustle, fixing my train, helping me pee, etc) so I now I have 2 bridal VIP’s lol. They will be helping me and getting ready with me and that’s as far as their duties go. I am buying them dresses so people know they are playing a special role that day...that’s it. Totally drama free!
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  • Cher Horowitz
    Master December 2019
    Cher Horowitz ·
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    You summed up the pros perfectly!

    I can't think of any cons, honestly. I've seen those same posts about bridal party drama Smiley laugh

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  • Alma
    Expert October 2020
    Alma ·
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    Omg that’s amazing! It’s funny because I also asked my 2 SIL (brothers wives) to get ready with me that day and come dress shopping with me. They are totally into it! I’m glad you have people who are willing to be there without the commitment and stress of being bridesmaids . Smiley smile
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  • Alma
    Expert October 2020
    Alma ·
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    Literally everyone I’ve told (whose already gotten married ) that I’m not having bridesmaids, they reply with “good for you!” Lol 😂
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  • Alma
    Expert October 2020
    Alma ·
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    Omg that’s amazing! It’s funny because I also asked my 2 SIL (brothers wives) to get ready with me that day and come dress shopping with me. They are totally into it! I’m glad you have people who are willing to be there without the commitment and stress of being bridesmaids . Smiley smile
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  • Amber
    Devoted July 2019
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    No bridal party here, NO regrets!! I got ready with my now SIL and one of my best friends. I didnt have a bridal shower or bachelorette party, but having already lived with my husband for 4 years and having a 3-year-old they seemed irrelevant.

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  • Jeanie
    Super February 2020
    Jeanie ·
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    I’m not having a bridal party. I didn’t want to be bothered by any of it. It’s really just a personal preference, but after being in so many weddings I couldn’t imagine putting my favorite girls through the drama and spending all that money on a dress they absolutely will never wear again. However, my two best friends have dubbed themselves my unofficial bridesmaids and still want to go ahead and plan a bachelorette party. They have also gone dress shopping with me and are always willing to give opinions when asked. Maybe it’s because I’m older and have done this once before, but I just don’t have any interest in bridesmaids whatsoever. That being said, I also don’t judge what other people want and am actually a bridesmaid in a friends wedding next year.
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