No Bridesmaids but Want to Name My Girls "honorary Bridesmaids"

Just make them bridesmaids. I don't really see the difference. They don't have any responsibilities toward your wedding whether you call them bridesmaids or "honorary" bridesmaids. The way I see it, you're either in the bridal party or you're not.

I would just make them bridesmaids and make it easy, tell them to skip a bridal shower & bachelorette, give them a color and let them find their own dress, let them pick their own shoes & jewelry.

View Quoted Comment Makes sense. We’re not having a bridal party stand beside us but I can just pitch the chill bridesmaid role. Thank you!

Having them as bridesmaids is a great decision!

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Wait, you are having them be bridesmaids but not stand up there with you? I am confused. Unless they are standing with you, they are guests. Please don't get hung up on titles. You can express to them how much your friendship has meant to you without making them bridesmaids.

Also, they can still get ready with you and take photos without being called anything. I would just invite them to do those things with you. You don't need to call them anything. I would feel very odd being called an "honorary BM".

View Quoted Comment Thanks! Exactly what I needed to hear!

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I agree with this. Don't over complicate it. Just ask them if they'd like to get ready with you but they're just normal guests without a title. You just want them to be there for you as friends, without all the responsibilities of a bridesmaid.

I’m in a similar situation, we are also having a destination wedding and decided not to have a bridal party. However, my two best friends from childhood decided they were going to be my unofficial bridesmaids. They respect that I don’t want a bridal party or a shower, but still want to be involved. They came dress shopping and give me opinions when asked. But I don’t see why you need to name your friends honorary bridesmaids or anything else. If you want them to be there for dress shopping or pictures, just ask them to be there. I’m sure they would love to share your wedding experiences with you, even without having to spend a ton of money on a dress they’ll never wear again!

Just make them bridesmaids! It’s up to you how much responsibility you want/don’t want them to have.