No bridal shower?

I think you should just ask if anyone is planning on throwing you a bridal shower. Doesn't have to be bridal party, could be anyone. Family, friends, coworkers.

If you really want a bridal shower you could plan and pay for your own but I think this would be super weird personally.

My mom has to bring it up to my sister because she literally had NO idea she was supposed to plan one.
I say bringing it up casually how you’d like one would be ok. Or if a sibling or cousin is in the bridal party can you talk with your mom to nudge them in that direction. Obviously I don’t know your family dynamics.

Have you expressed interest in a shower to your MOH and BMs?

I do not think it is bad to maybe mention it casually to family or bridal party like someone said. You can help pay and plan it but according to etiquette someone should host it but I will say if no one steps up...why not have an informal bridal brunch at your house. Maybe gifts are not necessary?

I don't think it would be bad to just casually bring it up to bridesmaids/family members, just to see if they're already planning something. If not, I probably wouldn't ask them to, but bringing it up will probably be enough to hint that you want one. I don't know about your situation, but for me, I happen to be the first one out of my friends and family getting married and my friends literally had no idea what a bridal shower even was (if I'm being honest, I didn't either until I was engaged). So maybe they just need the idea gently suggested

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I agree with Sophie! Just give a gentle hint!

Don't hint that someone should give you something, especially something involving lots of work and expense for them and presents for you. You may not get a shower; you'll get other things you want. It evens out.

I think you could ask your mom, sisters, or MOH if they’ve heard anything because “you want to make sure you don’t make plans” lol. If they say no, you can mention you’d love to have one and hope it’s a surprise. My mom mentioned she wanted to plan one for me and would want help from my FSIL and FMIL in terms of the guest list.

I agree with alejandra. this is a good way to go about it.

i also agree with cassandra - you dont want to come off like they HAVE to do it for you.