No bridal shower wording

You don't. don't mention gifts at all. if they give you cash instead of the gifts you want take the money and go buy the gifts.

You don't mention anything about gifts, because that would be pretty presumptuous.

You don't need to say anything. If you aren't having a shower, then no one will be receiving shower invitations. If they intend to bring you a wedding gift, they'll know what to do.

Why would you think you would need to do that?

Please no mention of gifts!

Oh okay, cause alot of people have been asking us about it and I feel like a tape recorder. Someone told me its the norm to have a shower. Since the shower is only for the gifts, so they won't know to bring them.

Also we told our bridal party we dont want a shower.

Yeah. By this point, no one sending them an invitation to a BS is telling them you aren't having one.

Don't say anything about gifts at all.

You probably won't get many boxed gifts at the wedding, because most people reserve that for showers.

Your guests are adults and they know how to bring a box or a card if they want to give you something.

Please don't have an empty table at your wedding labeled "Gifts" , just leave some empty space around your card box and guestbook if you expect some of your guests may bring boxed gifts. ETA: if your guests "won't know to bring gifts to the wedding" then that's because the tradition is to not bring boxed gifts to a wedding. They aren't ignorant, it just isn't something that they want to do or view as appropriate. By not having a shower, you miss out on the christmasy feel of opening fancy packages, you don't call your guests and tell them to bring a box to your wedding instead. If people are asking you about gifts, you just tell them you aren't having a shower and aren't expecting them to bring anything. If they really want to, they still will.

You don't say anything. The wedding will come and they'll see that you never had a shower. It's not like they'll keep holding onto them forever until you have one lol.

@A.Magill.in.May, we are not having a table mark gifts... It would be an empty table were the card box will be

It's not appropriate for the couple to talk about gifts unless you are asked about them, and then it's only okay to answer the question that you were asked. So if people are reaching out asking whether you are having a shower and then asking what they should do with your gift since you're not having a shower, it's okay to provide an answer to those specific people who have said they want to get you a gift. It's not okay to provide that information to people who haven't expressed interest in bringing you a gift, though, which is why you can't just advertise that you'll have a gift table.

Keep in mind that people don't have to bring gifts to a wedding. A shower, it's expected, a wedding, it's not. Also, in certain places, people don't bring physical gifts to weddings.

If you aren't having a shower, guests don't bring or send shower gifts. Proper etiquette is to have wedding gifts delivered to the couple's home, not brought to the wedding. If people bring gifts to the reception, you can put them on or under the card box table.

It is never correct to mention gifts in any way, shape, or form.

That is weird. The shower is for gifts, but people buy wedding gifts also. I have never heard of someone only buying a shower gift.

In our culture (Hubby and I) it is very acceptable for your guest to bring a gift. It is actually considered rude not to which is why I ask about the wording. Since we do have other people attending that are not the same culture as us I would not do it for that fact.

But thank you all for taking the time to help me out. I appreciate it.

@OliviaP I dont see how it is confusing. we simply don't want one, I am asking for the people not of my culture that is asking me about it and wanted to tell them where to bring it.

@Miami2NorthernVA... I stop asking what the norm is because I have people tell me so many different things like since they got a gift for a shower they don't bring anything for the wedding...IDK

but i always do both. At the end I just figure people will do what they want anyways...

The shower gift is in addition to the wedding gift. It's not just an event for people to bring your wedding gift early. Every wedding I've ever been to had a gift table. You usually don't need to tell people. It's assumed.

@Olivia- not everyone wants a shower. I definitely didn't want one. I just think they are boring and cheesy. Unfortunately my aunt insisted so I get to ooh and ah over plates and play silly games this weekend. Not a fan.

You don't tell people where to bring gifts. They either will or they won't and they will be perfectly within etiquette either way. You will be a gracious host.

Okay, thanks everyone....

Why would they get you gifts if you aren't having a shower? They would already know to bring it or $$$ to the wedding. No need to tell anyone anything.