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No bridal party

Megan, on July 10, 2019 at 8:37 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
My fiancé and I are planning a smaller wedding - 75 people max. Most of my closet friends live out of state and it’s not totally feasible for them to be around a ton. What are y’alls thoughts of not having a bridal party? Pros/cons?

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Latest activity by Jolie, on July 11, 2019 at 10:19 AM
  • Keri
    Expert November 2019
    Keri ·
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    Lots of pros! Cheaper, less stress. You can still get ready and celebrate with friends. Family/friends can still throw you a shower/bachelorette party. You can still go dress shopping with your nearest and dearest.

    Cons- You won't have the pictures with everyone in a matching dress smiling and forced laughing at you.


    We are having one person stand up on each side and couldn't be happier with the decision.

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  • Pirate & 60s Bride
    Legend March 2017
    Pirate & 60s Bride ·
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    We didn’t have one either! Pros: no extra drama, stress or cost for anyone. No regrets.

    The only con I can think of is missing out on the “getting ready” experience but I invited my mom & sister to get ready with me. And two of my friends treated me to a bridal shower brunch. So I didn’t miss anything really.
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  • M
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    I don't see anything wrong with not having a bridal party.
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  • Jessica
    Master September 2020
    Jessica ·
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    I agree with the PP that it can prevent a lot of stress and drama (though not all WPs cause stress and drama) and cuts some additional costs like bouquets, boutonnieres, and thank you gifts for the WP. Not being able to be around since they are out of state isn't really an issue, unless you are expecting them to host prewedding events for you (which they may or may not still be willing/able to do) and help you plan and get stuff ready. The only real requirement is for the WP to buy/rent the appropriate attire and stand up there with your FH and you on the day. I don't think you should have a wedding party just because it's traditional or expected, but if there are people you and your FH really want to stand up there with you I wouldn't be deterred by the fact they live out of state from asking if they would stand by my side.

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  • Virginia
    Super June 2021
    Virginia ·
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    No bridal party for me! 2nd marriage for both of us and totally not necessary. My son will walk me down the isle and his 2 sons will wait at the alter with him.
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  • Fany
    Devoted October 2021
    Fany ·
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    I’m opting out of a bridal party! I’m confident that I’ll have zero regrets.
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  • MrsJohansson
    Expert June 2019
    MrsJohansson ·
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    Less stress and drama. I didn't have one, didn't even think about it. Only see it being discussed on WW and I'm glad things went the way it did.

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  • Kim
    Super September 2019
    Kim ·
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    We are having a small bridal party; just 2 on each side. It would definitely be cheaper, and less people to manage, less drama.

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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
    Formerbride ·
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    I had the same size wedding. I didn't want to have a BP but I was tired of hearing my mom saying we needed witnesses lol. I had only wanted my cousins in the wedding ranging from 3 years old to 12 years old. We ended up having one friend each. I'm glad we did. For me, it was nice to have my friend to lean on!

    Do what makes you happy. It's certainly not odd to forgo a BP.
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  • J
    Master October 2019
    Jolie ·
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    If I could go back I already told FH I wouldn't have a bridal party, just my sister. I love my friends dearly but when they are stressing me out and being pains in the asses it makes me think wth was I thinking lol. It's low cost too to not have one.

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