No bridal party

I think if that's the case that sounds moreso like a regular invite as a guest except you could just ask your friends if they wanna get ready with you before hand like a hangout

View Quoted Comment Hm yea that’s true. I guess I’d just like to make an attempt to make it a little more special than just that.

I agree with PP. It's contradictory to say that you don't want a bridal party, but then turn around and ask your friends to be your bridesmaids. I would refrain from using the word bridesmaid at all and just ask them to get ready with you.

“I love you all so much I can’t picture getting ready without you”
- simple, short and to the point. If they know you the will understand the no bridal party & be okay with the come hang idea.

Please don't invite them to be a bridesmaid then have them sit in the pews. It would confuse me. "Do I wear a bridesmaid dress and and sit in the pew? Do I give a shower?"

Just come out and tell them" "We are not having a bridal party - could you be available to help me get ready?"

I have not understood the getting ready as a group thing, lol. I got ready in the very large (and very nice) restroom of the salon where I had my hair and makeup done. But that was me!

View Quoted Comment Yes I agree that I don’t really want to even use the word bridesmaid bc that would be very confusing. I guess I worded my question wrong. All my friends and sisters know there won’t be a bridal party so I want to just say “hey you mean and lot and I’d love if you were part of our day more than just attending—come get ready with us and let us treat you to lots of yummy food and drink.” Which I might end is just saying lol

View Quoted Comment Haha maybe it is a southern thing? I am a hairstylist/makeup artist and 9 times out of 10 brides will be getting ready with her crew whether that be in the salon, hotel room, or venue “get ready” area. It’s just a time to hang out and have a good time with them before the wedding begins. Plus it makes it easier for everyone to have their hair and makeup done by the same artists in a timely fashion

I have had two such invitations. From people far apart, did not know each other. And each had a card made up by one of the invitation companies that was different pic, same wording. As though they were actresses on opening night. Inviting me to join the ladies only party in the 🌟 Star's Dressing Room, before the show. 4 of us at one, 6 at the other. With a note on times, though only about 1 1/2 to 2 hours each time. Everyone thought the invitations were fun. I did not go to one, and 2 decline the second, for the same reasons: we were more than 2 hours drive away, and did not want to hang out with the bride and leave husband's with 3-5 kids hanging out. When I accepted, I traveled locally separate from just my husband. No one not local to the wedding who was riding with someone else, accepted. But that left 3 or 4 with the bride each time .
Enjoy!

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your input on the separate invitations. Those sound really cool! Luckily all my close friends and siblings are local. Their spouses or significant others are close to my fiancé as well and can go hang out with him that afternoon for drinks/cigars/shenanigans. After the first look I’m thinking well all hang out as one group so there shouldn’t be anyone lingering or waiting. But we shall see 😅

View Quoted Comment I looked for my old cards. Both labeled on back: Back stage pass, dressing room- wedding. Product line I think

I don't think you do! I think you just send out a group text asking if they'd like to get ready with you a few months before the wedding. If you wanted to do something cute, I would have it there morning of rather than prepped as an invite. So more of a thank you, here's a little box with some make up and chocolate, rather than a please come, heres a little box of make up and chocolate. Best of luck!

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I like this too! I think that'd be cute!

I’m not having s bridal party either, for the same exact reasons. However, like you, I did want the sense of close community. So, I’m asking people to get involved in other ways. I’m having henna done a week before my wedding, and asked for some people to join me. Even though not a lot of people wanted to, I still asked. Also, when I booked my hair stylist for the morning, I just asked if anyone would like to tack on. Within a minute, 4 people did and one volunteered to bring brunch. I think there are definitely ways to still get people involved, even a low key bachelorette party.

View Quoted Comment I like that idea of just a group text. Then the other girls can see who else will the there too.

View Quoted Comment That’s awesome. I think most of the girls I’d invite would def want to be there that morning they’re just waiting for me to mention it!

I made a box for my future SIL who
just got engaged as well. I was originally going to ask her as a bridesmaid but not sure we will have a bridal party after all so I just made her a bride box lol. Maybe word it I can’t get ready without you or I can’t say I do without your glam help. Sorry that’s the best I got, but I think you can still
Do a box just don’t say bridesmaid. Happy planning 👰🏻🖤

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Yes I like all those suggestions. Thanks!