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No bridal party— pre-ceremony questions

Laura, on April 17, 2021 at 4:17 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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We decided on no bridal party. However, we are having our nieces and nephews as ring bearers and flower girls, and our parents will be walking down the isle as normal. My fiancé and I each have 1 sibling— should we also have them walk down the isle as well, so that all of our immediate family is involved (and because their kids are our flower girls and ring bearers)? Or do we have them get the kids ready elsewhere and show up at the same time as the ceremony?

Do we also get ready with them? Fiancé’s sister was asking to get her hair done, and I wouldn’t mind getting ready with my brothers wife— I’m close to both. Have a hair/makeup lady booked and she can do as many hair and makeup as needed. I’m getting ready with our moms and getting their hair and makeup done as gifts.
Fiancé is getting ready with 2 of his best friends. But feel bad because my best friends would most likely be showing up with the rest of the guests. I’m having my longer best friend be my witness.
Thoughts? Overthinking and a little stressed about this.

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Latest activity by Jacqueline, on April 22, 2021 at 5:35 PM

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Maureen · on April 17, 2021 at 5:45 PM
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I’m doing the same thing you are, no large bridal party except we have 1 MOH and 1 BM which are both our siblings. We each have two siblings that aren’t in the wedding party, with sibling in-laws, and we’re going to have them be part of the family procession down the aisle to have all immediate family involved. I think it’s fine and a great idea to have your family be apart of the procession. I’m also still having my SILs getting ready with my in the morning, and possibly including a few friends. There’s no rule book saying you can’t have who you want involved in your day, even though you don’t have a bridal party!
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Lynnie · on April 19, 2021 at 4:31 PM
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It's totally up to you Laura! You can have your siblings join the processional and get ready with you if you'd like!! Or they can get ready separately - it's your call!
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Kaitlin · on April 21, 2021 at 2:36 PM
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I am so happy someone brought this up! My fiancé and I decided not to do a bridal party (getting married on 5/20/22). And just today, we've been stressing on how to make our loved ones involved without hurting anyone's feelings. We mainly chose to not do a bridal party to avoid drama, but it's hard deciding what people can do to feel included/special on your day!! We are having immediate family walk down the aisle, and having a few BFF's be witnesses, as well as read poems (my one BFF is also being our officiant). It's so hard! Any other ideas that people have done, I'm all ears!
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Samantha · on April 22, 2021 at 1:58 PM
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My mom has 3 sisters and a boatload of female friends, and my dad has 3 brothers and a boat load of friends. When they got married, they elected to ditch the bridal party altogether with the exception of my sister, and my two cousins who carried mom's train. Mom's MOH was technically her mom, and Dad's BM was technically his dad, but my understanding is that mom got ready at her house with her sisters, my sister, and her nieces (my cousins) and my dad got ready with his brothers and his dad. My mom personally wanted that time to hang out and get dressed together, if I remember correctly!
The only people in the processional were the parents getting escorted to their seats, then my sister as the flower girl, and my cousins carrying mom's train. No one stood up with them for the ceremony because "I love my friends and family enough to let them sit down for my wedding and wear whatever they want"
All in all, do what feels right for you and your people
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Maddie · on April 22, 2021 at 5:11 PM
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Doing the same here! Granted we each have one sibling (my brother is going to walk my mom and his brother is the best man) and my maid of honor is actually my man of honor who's boyfriend is doing my hair and makeup. In which case, we will probably get ready together. I like the idea of involving the whole family but it is your choice. I've never heard of a set rule. Our ring bearer and flower girl won't be with us until we're at the ceremony though.
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Jacqueline · on April 22, 2021 at 5:35 PM
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We are doing exactly what you are. Our ceremony is immediate family only (parents and siblings) and we are not having a wedding party. That said, I gave each of my sisters/in law a little gift and a card that said "will you NOT be my bridesmaid". They are still involved, getting ready with me and all the fun stuff, without any of the stress. I did hire a hair and make up for us all, but mostly because we are getting married is a rather inconvenient location to travel and have it done first!. My FH is doing the same with his brother/inlaw.
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