Post content has been hidden

To unblock this content, please click here

Savvy July 2020

No bridal party - just moh / Best Man

Modesty, on May 19, 2020 at 10:19 PM Posted in Planning 0 11

Saved

Flag
Hide content

Hi my fiancé and I are having no bridesmaids and groomsmen for our wedding because we don’t have many close friends. My MOH is my best friend since high school and his best man is his cousin and also his best friend. Are there any pros and cons of not having bridesmaids and groomsmen? I also don’t want to deal with drama, toxicity and negativity during this process because I will get crazy on someone. lol most of the people we thought of are very negative so we just decided to be simple for our day.

Flag
Hide content

11 Comments

Latest activity by Melle, on May 20, 2020 at 12:25 PM

Expert October 2020
Kimberly · on May 19, 2020 at 10:28 PM
Flag

Hide content
The last wedding I went to did the same, just MOH and Best Man. They were all happy and that’s what matters. Sometimes simple is best. Go with what feels right to you. 🙂
- Reply
Dedicated October 2021
Megan · on May 19, 2020 at 10:38 PM
Flag

Hide content
Totally fine to just do a MOH and Best Man--I've seen it a bunch of times. No real pros and cons: your wedding party should always just represent who's nearest and dearest to you and your SO.
I will say, though, as I've said to many of my brides and grooms; if your biggest worry about having a wedding party is toxicity and negativity... I would highly suggest re-evaluating your relationships with the people in your life.
- Reply
Super November 2019
Mrs. S · on May 19, 2020 at 10:40 PM
Flag

Hide content
You’d be amazed at the level of drama that usually normal, kind people can create when it comes to weddings. I think moh and best man only is just fine.
- Reply
Super February 2021
Kerin · on May 19, 2020 at 11:10 PM
Flag

Hide content
It's perfectly fine! If you choose to have bachelor and bachelorette parties, you aren't limited to just having the attendants there, so really, I don't see a downside. Good luck!
- Reply
Expert May 2021
Michelle · on May 19, 2020 at 11:10 PM
Flag

Hide content
We are only having one each, there may be a second groomsmen added. Reasons for me is I have a very close friend for many years and a few good friends I love. I didn’t want to have anyone left out, and I also didn’t want to put the Financial burden on some of my friends (destination wedding) honestly, it is also keeping my cost down. Flowers are expensive, wedding party gifts ect. I also wanted to pay for the wedding day makeup, which would not be possible with 3 or more girls in the wedding party.. My wedding is small and intimate....and I want every aspect to feel that way. I also appreciated only worrying about the style of dress for one person.
Maybe the con is simply not having as many support options, however, all my girls and family have been great with trying to support me. I don’t feel a lack of that...
- Reply
Super October 2020
Leslie · on May 19, 2020 at 11:51 PM
Flag

Hide content
It doesn’t need to be a big production. I think it’s perfectly fine and will be much more enjoyable for you.
- Reply
Master October 2021
Sexypoodle · on May 20, 2020 at 3:26 AM
Flag

Hide content
Well, we selected not to have a bridal party at all. Instead, we want our invited, family & friends to sit back, relax and enjoy our wedding day as honored guests. So it’s all pros to me. 😊
- Reply
Devoted October 2020
Futuremrsn · on May 20, 2020 at 6:50 AM
Flag

Hide content
We aren’t having bridesmaids or groomsmen either - I don’t have many close friends, neither does FH. I’m having my mother as my Matron of Honor, and he might be having his grandfather as his Best Man. Do what makes you happy with the people you hold dearest!
- Reply
Master October 2020
Margaret · on May 20, 2020 at 8:20 AM
Flag

Hide content
I think what you're planning is fine. We aren't even having a best man or MOH. If anything my FH's son (10) will stand up with us. This is YOUR day and it should be done the way you want it. People are going to judge no matter what you do (if you have 10 in the BP that's the problem, if you have 1 that's the problem)... Remember, WHO CARES, it's YOURS and your FH's day and enjoy it the way you planned it.
- Reply
Savvy July 2020
Modesty · on May 20, 2020 at 8:21 AM
Flag

Hide content
View Quoted Comment
Thanks everyone!! 😀😀
- Reply

Legend June 2019
Melle · on May 20, 2020 at 12:25 PM
Flag

Hide content
Dude in hindsight although i can't imagine my day without my friends, i do think the process i was sometimes stressed out by them aha. for instance, one of my bridesmaids did not get her dress until three days before my wedding AND it needed alterations. so that in itself was anxiety inducing. and i just had moments where dealing with so many personalities can be annoying. so i do see the pro of not having anyone else to have to worry about.
- Reply