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AnaA
Savvy October 2026

No Best Man

AnaA, on February 3, 2020 at 12:19 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 5

So my future brother in law was asked to be the best man at our wedding at first he agreed but now he has not answered any of our text messages and didn't attend a brunch that we had for bridal group.

A little back story, FBIL got married last year and my future husband was the best man at his wedding. In September his wife and I had a falling out. My FH is really close to his brother and I would never take that away from him regardless of what happened between herself and I. I'm pretty sure his wife is the one that told him not be in our bridal group and to just ignore us. It sucks because my FH is really upset about it and just puts a brave/happy face. At this point he said he does not want to have a best man.

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Latest activity by Sherry, on February 4, 2020 at 1:57 PM
  • Jennifer
    Super March 2020
    Jennifer ·
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    I hate hearing stories like this. I never understood why someone can't put aside their issues for one day. It isn't like Christmas or Thanksgiving that comes yearly. It is a wedding that only comes once in a lifetime!
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  • AnaA
    Savvy October 2026
    AnaA ·
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    You are so right. I don't have an issue with my FBIL. He would have been in the bridal group and I would have treated him the same as everyone else. Only because I don't get along with his wife doe not mean I would have been rude to him. We will still be sending an invitation for both of them but I doubt that they will show.

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
    Sherry ·
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    At this point there really isn't anything to be done if he isn't willing to talk. Since it won't be filled by anyone else, I would send him the info on the attire he will need and just leave the spot open and hope that he shows up or just send him an invitation and let him choose to show up as a guest. Hopefully he will decide to act like an adult and come and support his brother.

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  • AnaA
    Savvy October 2026
    AnaA ·
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    We agreed that we will just send an invitation for him and his wife as just guests. It sucks because I feel responsible for my FH not having a best man.

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  • Sherry
    Master September 2019
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    You put your differences aside to invite them, they should do the same to attend. It goes both ways.

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